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  • Mar 11, 2008, 02:12 AM
    joproblems
    What should I do?
    I had a crush on this girl for a long time. But I never talked to her about it. Then she and I became friends in secret. We never did anything because she was in a relationship with another friend for around 3 years. But one day she just came out and told me she had a crush on me. And that her relationship was going no where physically or emotionally. I admitted that I had one on her as well. We started talking and set some ground rules. The main rule being... we wouldn't do anything until she was out of her current relationship and he moved out of their apartment. But after a few weeks we broke that rule. And that went on for a while and eventually I got her pregnant. She immediately broke up with the other guy and she planned to move home until he moved out of their apartment. But that lasted for only a day or two before she moved back to her apartment and kicked him out of their room. We still began to see each other exclusively while we planned for our future child. After a month she began to withdraw from me and get very depressed. The more I tried to help her, the worse it got. She stressed herself out so bad she eventually miscarried after a few more months. She came to me immediately and told me what happened. She told me we couldn't see each other anymore. But that didn't stop us from talking and loving each other. We stayed together and embraced the relationship and things were going amazing. We got engaged. We spent the majority of our time together and then all of a sudden she withdrew from me again. It lasted for a week or two then we began to spend time together occasionally and things were okay. Then one day I brought up the fact that I've been more than reasonable about her ex-boyfriend. And he was holding up our relationship because he couldn't find an apartment and get out of hers. She handed me my ring back and told me she couldn't be with me anymore and ran away crying. After about a week of us arguing I said something that reached her and things became calm again. She said she just needed a little time and then she would come back to me, but only when she could stay with me forever but she didn't want to get engaged right away once we got back together.things were going great for a couple weeks. We were in constant contact and then all of a sudden. She withdrew again. No explanation or anything. We still text each other but I need more.im not sure what my next step should be. I do love her dearly.:confused:
  • Mar 11, 2008, 05:24 AM
    COOKIE MONSTER
    to me it sounds like she doesn't no what she wants but every time she distances herself from you its you getttin hurt
    I no she had amiscarriage and that won't have helped and she will still be hurting from that but her x is still in her house [THATS NOT RIGHT] could she still have feelings for him
    that could be thr reason why she doesn't no what she wants and the reason why she hasn't kicked him out of her apartment

    I could be rong but I'm just going off what you've said

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