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  • Mar 10, 2008, 04:05 PM
    xxxlovecanhurtxxx
    Kiss kiss
    My boyfriend doesn't think I want to kiss him but I really do I just don't know how to tell him. He tells me he wants to kiss me bu then I ask well then why don't you. His response is always the same, "you dont want to." I say yes I do. But then he says well why don't you. But I want him to kiss me not me kiss him. If this makes any sense to you, please, can you give me some of your advice on how to fix this problem.
  • Mar 10, 2008, 04:24 PM
    Farmerjohn692000
    Just let it happen, when neither of you are talking about it, just throw your arms around him and do it.
  • Mar 12, 2008, 05:58 PM
    Simple Asian
    just let it come to you ^^... just like famerjohn said...

    there no rush ^^ >.you can't control it... ^^
  • Mar 12, 2008, 06:03 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Talking about it, seldom makes it happen. It either happens naturally or it is just not suppose to happen yet.
  • Mar 13, 2008, 02:04 PM
    xoxo_mygoodies_xoxo_2012
    Its simple. Juss telll him how much ou want to be with him. And you really do want to kiss him and get over the fact that you want him to kiss you. He might be afriad to since he can't tell when you want. Or when you want it
  • Mar 13, 2008, 03:44 PM
    JBeaucaire
    Reverse psychology was invented to describe how guys SO OFTEN do the opposite of what you say you want them to do... it's ridiculously childish, but we all do it. It takes DECADES for guys to fully suppress that natural reaction.

    So, telling him to kiss you makes his initial reaction "don't kiss her". Telling him NOT to kiss you will get the same result because guys don't want to be guilty of forcing themselves on girls.

    How's that for frustrating?

    So, at your age, you don't have the experience to talk some of these things through effectively, so relax.

    When you want him to kiss you and the situation is appropriate for it, smile and lean into his personal space and don't move away. Look at him in the eyes and he will come the rest of the way when he is ready. That way you initiate, but HE ultimately kisses you.

    When he's ready. Don't punish him if he moves away. That's not fair nor helpful. Just be open to it, and he'll respond when he's ready. Talk about other things.
  • Mar 13, 2008, 04:07 PM
    KD33
    Well I think he is just as shy on that matter as you are, he doesen't want to make the first move. You got to remember that guys get nervous too. You also need to remember that a first kiss with someone is not near as magical as it would be when it's innocent and unexpected. So just get in the right kind of moment and let it happen on it's own.

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