Hi everyone
Well I have been married for 5 yrs and my husband just can't seem to get it up
He's been that way since I first met him please need some advise

I would suggest that he see his doctor. It could be a medical condition or it could be mental. Maybe both. At any rate his doctor would be the one to help. Good luck.

What's his health? Mentally? Physically?

There are a TON of things that can come into play, as mentioned.

Is he physically fit? Active? Depressed? Stressed? Rested? Any meds? Drugs? Kids in the house? On and on and on...

Best advice is to have him talk to a med professional in person... though he can resist. Sexual health is important and being idle and unintersted isn't the same as being unable.

I don't have the same steel piercing hard ons that I had when 16 (those are wasted on the young) but you'd better believe I try to do all I can to ensure the best sexual experience I can. That means work on my part.

Exercise for fitness and self esteem, control of high blood pressure and depression (both of which I've had), reduction of stress, healthy sleep patterns, limiting drinking, mentally focusing on my partner and building sensual tension, etc...

So... what the deal? What's his history. There are a lot of things at play... some can be purely physical, some can be mental, can be both... but he should be at least willing to address the issue.

Even with this problem, is he giving in bed? Can he get you off orally? Do you feel a sensual connection, even though the physical has suffered?

Take him for oral if u have never tried it... best luck