Ok here's what happened. I had a girlfriend who I was with for 5 years and we have a child. I loved her and I still do! I caught her talking to her ex late at night and texting him by looking at a phone bill. I confronted her and she said they were just talking about harmless stuff and that she needed someone to talk to... then just the other day I asked her if her ex was with the group of people she was out at a bar with! She said no! Then I seen a picture of them at this bar and he was there! SO I broke up with her because I can't trust her anymore... she lies to me! SHe said she lied because she new I would get mad! What do I do! I love her and we have a kid... but I can't trust her. I don't know why she lies! I am so messed up rightnow! I ended it and she cries and stuff but she never even said sorry or tried to make it work again... she just says Are you sure that's what you want! Did I do the right thing by breaking it off! How do I move on? IM so lost! I go crazy thinking of what she is doing, who she's with, if she's having sex with someone,. im so hurt and confused. I don't know how to move on! I can't sleep! Please someone help me! I feel like I will never recover!

I don't think people lie about things if they are doing nothing wrong. Breaking up may be a little harsh, but that is your choice. It seems a little off to me that she woud be texting and hanging out with your ex, not to mention she is sneaking and lying to you about it. All signs would point to more going on, but you may want to really sit down and talk to her about it so things are clear.

I never understood why people say "I lied because you would get mad" I think it's more "I lied so I wouldn't get caught". Seems more to this than she is telling you, she is risking your relationship to text and hang out with this guy? I don't buy nothing is going on here. It may not be that she is cheating on you (yet) but somehting is up.

Yes u should!

She is a compulsive liar and she keeps getting caught in them and when she is confronted with these lies she covers it up with another one. So how this she expect you to trust her when she has broken the trust so many times.

This break up is going hurt you especially since the two of have a child together but whatever you do don't allow this break up to interfer with the relationship with your child.

All of the feelings you are feeling are normal so you have to give yourself time to heal. Take it day by day because you won't heal overnight.

Guys-the thread's from 2008.