I'll try to make this as short as possible...
About two months ago, my girlfriend told me she needed some space because she was just working too much and had no time for herself. Keep in mind this is her first "real" job which she started in August. She told me the space meant just not hanging out so much during the week (we would eat dinner together and hang out 3 or 4 nights a week) and not hang out so much on the weekends, just do things mostly at night and maybe just one night.
Then, about a month ago, I got pissed one weekend when we didn't do a thing together, I hadn't seen her in over a week! I told her this is not the type of relationship I want to be in! So on Sunday night of that weekend she tells me she wants a break. I say we will just break up because I don't believe in breaks, but she insists that we don't. She said she needed some time to think about things. She gave me a half-assed answer as to what "things" she was talking about, but mostly said that it was her job and she has been working too much and it is putting a strain on relationships, both ours and her friends.
We didn't talk much that week, but the following weekend she asks for me to come over so we can talk. She tells me she just doesn't feel right and she's not happy, not really about us, but just in general. I ask her what she means by break, she says just to slow things down... like we don't need to talk all the time or hang every night of every weekend, but she still wants me to spend some time with her. She said she doesn't want to hook up with or date other people and she doesn't want me to do it either. I say fine, we'll see how this goes.
So we don't talk for a few days, and then she asks me to come over for dinner. Everything went as though we were still together. Again, we don't talk for a few days, the weekend comes, we didn't do anything together, more because I was doing my own thing. She sends an email saying that she loves me, she just needs some space, that this is really hard for her, that we've been through tough times and that we will get through this. We don't really talk for the whole week and Saturday comes. She asks me if I want to get lunch with her and just hang out and watch a movie. We eat lunch together. Lay together just like we would if we were dating. We talk a little bit about what is going on. She says she just doesn't want a boyfriend right now. I ask her what she would tell people if they asked her if she was in a relationship and she said that she would tell them that yes, she was in one. She said if she wanted a boyfriend right now, then I would be the one. It's just weird because when we are together and talk, it's just like it was when were dating... we lay together, kiss, she calls me babe and hun, and we've even slept together. She was looking at engagement rings about a week before we went on this break!
I guess I'm just really confused. Is she being honest? Is she getting nervous because this summer will be 3 years (which is by far her longest relationship)? (She has told me that I was the first guy, of about 5, she dated that she knew she could actually marry) Does she really need space because of work or is she taking this time to think about us? Is she just keeping me holding on until she figures out if she wants me or something else? To me, you don't go on a break with someone and force yourself to not be with them if you really do love them. Sometimes I feel like I should just break things off completely to make her realize what it would be like without me. So it's been about a month since we officially went on a break, should I give her another month and force her to make a decision and if she can't then we will be completely done?
I have good days and bad. For the most part, I don't mind the break. Sometimes I think everything will be OK and other times I think there is no way we are getting back together. Any advice?
