I can on myown,but rather wouldn't. Me and myboyfriend have great sex but he wants to make me come its amission of his lol he plays an licks but it gets to intence and then uncomfertable then irratating then I get mad because I can't I don't show that I'm mad but I am is their anything we can do??

COOKIE,

I get the vibe that you are all about your boyfriend, and happy to have him, and not so much about being a strong sexual woman on your own taking your pleasure from his body.

All the intense contact of oral sex is too much for many women! And, these young guys are learning from hard core porn.

I think you guys should slow down with the genital contact and explore each other's pleasure spots such as breasts, nipples, necks, etc, etc etc. in depth.

But this just isn't aproblem now its always bin aproblem in past relationships aswel,I can come by myself but it takes forever I used to spend ages at it years ago but it got to the point were I giv up and just lost interest so I don't bother anymore

And yeah kissin the neck is great,breasts doesn't do it for me,we've done all that,lol I need to get rid of this frustration as well its driving me mad

Let me think about this COOKIE.

Are you in a situation where the only pleasure you get is sex... the rest of your life is just plain work? I seem to remember that you have two children, am I right? If that is the case, then you put a lot of pressure on yourself and on your sexual relationship to make your life for you.

I never had children... hopefully, some of the other experts will help you with comprehensive answers.

All I can think of right now is for you to go outside this Spring with your friend and take a long walk and make love under a tree. :)

I love myboyfriend very much and he means a lot to me,I've never felt so comfertable with anyone as I do with him,I've never got undressed infrunt of any of my x's but I can infrunt of myboyfriend,we can talk about anything sex,kids,marriage,x partners absolutley everythin,I thort in the past it could have been because things was botherin me,stress,depression,mybody,problems at home n stuff like that but I'm not depressed anymore mybody will just av to do because I can't get anew1 lol,and I've got myown house,I am abit stressed but that comes with having a 2year old and a 4 and ahalf month old but other than that everythin is great so I can't understand why I can't unless its medical

Lol sounds great,I've always wanted to av sex in the rain [not really heavy rain] lol

I think you and your friend who you are so comfortable with would really do well to have a LONG WEEKEND at a lakeside resort. :) Have dinner and drinks... unwind and enjoy each other. Relax. Take long walks... go to the movies... relax... :)

[Have someone babysit the kids for the three days you are gone}

Bit difficult I can't leave the kids with mymum she feeds them things their not serposed to have and lets the oldest get away with murder,mydad lives in england,mygrandparents are to old and myauntie won't change dirty nappies,myfriend doesn't no how to look after children and panics when they cry,and theirs no one else that can mind them my mum mite have them for afew hours at night when their in bed but that's all and I have to pay her

I hear you Cookie.
I can't orgasm. At all. Not by myself, nor with someone. I enjoy the contact of another person, and there are plenty of things that feel good, but I can't orgasm. It feels good, but not the explosively amazing feeling I've heard about, and then just gets over-sensitive and painful.
So if you find a magical technique to make it work... let me know. :P

Lol I will

A lot of the time when women can't orgasm, it's because they're FOCUSING too much on it. It's like--LOOK! There's a pink elephant in the living room! DO NOT LOOK AT THE PINK ELEPHANT!

I mean, we all know it's out there, but it's so HARD to get.

In my experience, you have to surrender to it, at least the first few times. You have to be relaxed, having fun, not focusing on getting there... just enjoying the journey.

If you're in a hurry, it's probably not going to happen. If you're listening for the kids, same thing. After you've gotten there, it's easier to do the quickie thing, but until you just relax, go with the flow, enjoy the feeling completely--it'll stay right out of your grasp.

Thanks synnen