Me and my boyfriend have been dating for close to two years. In Sept. of 07 we found out that we were going to have a baby, and in nov. 07 I found out that he was still LEGALLY married. Well in Jan 08, my boyfriend reinlisted in the national guard and now I'm afraid of what could and might happened to him, being married with a pregnant girfriend and now back in the army. Does anyone have any advise for me! He says that life will be fine and that he will divorce her soon, but I kind of think he is going to have a rude awakening when our daughter is born! Someone please guide me, I'm new to all this military stuff

I am not too familiar with military rules and etiqutte either, but I think it's also largely a matter of how he decides to handle things; and if he says divorcing her "soon" rather than "as soon as possible" then that doesn't sound quite right to me, and I doubt the military will disagree on that...

.. does he have good reason for still being married? It's not something you tend to forget easily I'd say...

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Originally Posted by cherydionne

me and my boyfriend have been dating for close to two years. in Sept. of 07 we found out that we were going to have a baby, and in nov. 07 i found out that he was still LEGALLY married. Well in Jan 08, my boyfriend reinlisted in the national guard and now im affraid of what could and might happened to him, being married with a pregnant girfriend and now back in the army. does anyone have any advise for me!? he says that life will be fine and that he will divorce her soon, but i kinda think he is going to have a rude awakening when our daughter is born!! someone please guide me, im new to all this military stuff

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There can be allot of reasons for him still being married but I think that's not what your looking for. The military is big on family relationships. They do there best to help accommodate you both. You should be fine. Oh did you two talked about living together where he will be stationed to? If you need any information please don't hesitate to ask.

He needs to do something now if he plans on staying in.I know a few people that have been kicked out of the Air Force because of things like this. The military does not recognize speration, to them, you are still marrried.

Ex: I have a friend, who was in the Air Force, he was messing around with some girls at his base, although his wife was back in LA and he was in Kansas when the Air Force found out about it they kicked him out.

So he needs to do something now if he plans on staying in

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Originally Posted by 13sldr

he needs to do something now if he plans on staying in.i know a few people that have been kicked out of the Air Force because of things like this. the military does not reconize speration, to them, you are still marrried.

ex: i have a friend, who was in the Air Force, he was messing around with some girls at his base, although his wife was back in LA and he was in kansas when the Air Force found out about it they kicked him out.

so he needs to do something now if he plans on staying in

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From my experience of being in the service I have never seen or herd of an enlisted person married and fooling around on his wife with another woman then got kicked out. Now that being said it is ageist the rule of conduct that Fraternization while on duty is illegal. So is this what happened? The military will assist everyone enlisted as long as if they share it with there chain of command (keep in mind to do this in privet). I truly believe that the person in question has more to offer meaning there is more information that we are not aware of.

He wasn't nessarly "fooling" round with girls, more like he had a girlfriend and some nosie people got into his buiness and got him kicked out, but keep in mind that he was in Kansas and his wife was in LA and they didn't really talk any more, in fact he was going through the prosses of getting a devorice with her

If he is not divorced, when the baby is born, file for custody and get child support ordered for your protection.

The National Guard is different from the active components, unless he is full time. If he only drills once a month and does 2 weeks in the summer then you likely won't have too many problems with him getting in trouble as long as he has started the divorce proceedings. You should really look into if this guy is legitimate or just using you though. Does he have you or his wife listed as the beneficiary for the Soldier's Group Life Insurance (SGLV Form) and are you listed as the person to be notified in the case of his death on the DD Form 93? On drilling status a soldier falls under the state's code of military justice, at annual training and on full time or deployed status they fall under the federal Uniform Code of Military Justice. Your state guard ofice should have a family center and a legal center who you can call for advice too.