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Should I stay or should I go

I have been married for almost 2 years. My wife and I do fight back and forth. Some how she is always blamming me for things, and if I go somewhere or do something she gets mad but she can do what she wants. She never trusts me, is rude to my family, along with hers, and she gets in her moods and is a wench. Granted I'm not a bowl of peaches too but I have more patience and am more easy going. She tries to boss me around but I don't put up with it and it makes her mad. I try to be the one to ignore a fight or whatever but she still tries to fight with me. I bet she has told me she wants a divorce more then she loves me. We don't even do anything to often in the bed. Hell we don't even kiss hardly. SO should I get a divorce or will it get better

They say it takes two to fight but she sounds like the type that I have seen all too often that do a good job all on their own.
They also say opposites attract which this is a good example of why I don't like the opposites attract bit.
She is miserable with herself and taking it out on you basically.
If you try to be all sweet and not stand up to her then she will feel she can walk all over you. If you stand up to her then she is hating on you. So your d@mned if you do and your d@mned if you don't!
The only thing I can think of at the moment is sometimes when she wants a divorce
Mention that she must not want one too bad since in the xx years she has been saying that she could have already been divorced 10 times over.
When she says she loves you try and get out of her WHAT do you love about me?

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Originally Posted by Farmerjohn692000

I have been married for almost 2 years. My wife and I do fight back and forth. Some how she is always blamming me for things, and if i go somewhere or do something she gets mad but she can do what she wants. She never trusts me, is rude to my family, along with hers, and she gets in her moods and is a wench. Granted i'm not a bowl of peaches too but i have more patience and am more easy going. She tries to boss me around but i don't put up with it and it makes her mad. I try to be the one to ignore a fight or whatever but she still tries to fight with me. I bet she has told me she wants a divorce more then she loves me. We don't even do anything to often in the bed. hell we dont even kiss hardly. SO should i get a divorce or will it get better

I have tried to get the why do you love me out of her but never get nothing but because I do. She has no respect for others, will not drop issues that need dropped, never says sorry or thank you or I was wrong. I cleaned the house one time for a party she had when she got home she told me I wasted my f'en time and it would get re done by her.

She is definitely miserable with her self.
If I were you I don't think I would want to do another thing unless she asked me to.
I don't even think I would be in the same room with her.
When she keeps things up can you say I got your point and you don't want to hear mine and
Leave the room?

I have tried everything. I'm wrong she is right. I try to not be in the same room as her, like watching TV. She'll because I'm not doing anything or being lazy. I work 16 hours a day I do all the "manly stuff" around the house but yet I'm lazy. My parents dislike her, my grandparents dislike her. I skip holidays because she is a crab, skip my work xmas party because she don't like my co-workers. When does it give

Take a few days to go fishing, and get away to think, and see what you want. If nothing else its peace and quiet.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Take a few days to go fishing, and get away to think, and see what you want. If nothing else itss peace and quiet.

He might love it too much and not go back! :D

She may be too much of a wench to stay married. But, her behavior is classic for many women who do not have orgasms. The "taming of the shrew" is too often buried under psychological cures, I think.

For me, it boiled down to one question - Will my life be better with him or without him? It's better without him. For you, do the positive things (can't imagine there are too many of them right now!) outweigh the negative? If she won't agree that something needs fixing or shows no interest in wanting to make some changes, you have your answer. You cannot reason with the unreasonable.

If she doesn’t trust you she is probably doing something shady. If you’re not doing anything physical that could certify that notion.