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  • Jan 30, 2006, 10:30 AM
    scouto
    Confused - love my ex?
    I have now been going out with my current boyfriend for a little over a year and truly love him but the problem is this oast weekend we went to a wedding shower that my ex boyfriend who I went out with for 2 years was at. Now that I saw my ex boyfriend with my family having fun I kind of miss him and don't know if my feeling for him are coming back. I don't know what to do!
  • Jan 30, 2006, 10:34 AM
    fredg
    Hi, Scouto,
    There was a very similar question posted not long ago.
    You will have to decide whether to talk with your ex, find out if he feels the same way, or continue your relationship with your current boyfriend.
    Just because you might have feelings for your ex doesn't mean he still has feelings for you.
    Why not call him and ask him how he feels.
    I do wish you the best of luck, and eventually, it will turn out OK.
  • Jan 30, 2006, 11:25 AM
    Wildcat21
    How about using LOGIC instead of feelings. I WILL say it again - women rely WAY too much on their feelings and it gets them in trouble A LOT.

    Sure you have some attraction - but remember WHY you broke to begin with. Women tend to remember only the good. And not the bad.

    If he is such a great guy, why aren't you with him??

    Did he dump you? Cheat? Lie? Abusuve?
  • Jan 30, 2006, 11:31 AM
    scouto
    Good point, we grew apart then and that could happen again
  • Jan 30, 2006, 11:58 AM
    nwsflash
    I think you know that this Ex is never going to work deep down inside, but I also get the feeling from what your saying that your current boyfriend may also be the wrong guy for you. Hey you have to kiss loads of toads sometime's until you find your prince.

    You and your current boyfriend need to have a good talk and do some soul searching. It's wrong for you to think about getting back with your Ex whilst you still have a boyfriend, think of the hurt that could make for both of you !
    Quote:

    we grew apart
    Hey come on Ex's are Ex's for good reason's.
  • Jan 30, 2006, 12:23 PM
    Wildcat21
    Yes - this is usually a signal not everything is great with the current guy. WOrk on the current guy and figure out what is missing.
  • Jan 30, 2006, 12:25 PM
    scouto
    Thanks for the input, you helpe me clear my head
  • Jan 30, 2006, 01:21 PM
    nwsflash
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by scouto
    Thanks for the input, you helpe me clear my head

    Your welcome :)
  • Jan 30, 2006, 01:38 PM
    DrJ
    When you have really cared for someone, especially if you truly loved them, those feelings will likely never go away.

    I have loved a few girls in my life and when I see them today, I still have feelings for them. Im not going to act on them and I know that we will never get back together... that is okay. I know why we are not together. But I love them. Love isn't something that just goes away after you break up. Love is eternal.

    Its okay to still feel something toward your ex. But, like others here have said, if you are going to give it more thought than just that, you need to re-evaluate your current situation.

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