My wife no longer can arouse me to the point where I have to view porn and visualize. Does anyone else have this problem or recommend solution. We are both active and we try to make time for it, but she is starting to notice that I'm not enjoying it.

John

My brother in law is going through the same thing. I told his girlfriend that she's boring him
You have to switch it up sometimes, and if you don't have that much time for each other than the times that you do should be over the top. Go all out for your girl, maybe you need to practice new positions. That's what's keeping my relationship close.:)

How old are the both of you. You might be suffering from Erectile dysfunction. I mean, it happens and it's nothing to be ashamed of. If you are middle aged then it's a possibility. She could be experiencing lack of sexual drive and when you guys rae getting busy she might not be in the mood. Also, depression could be causing it on her end. Have you 2 talked about the medical aspects of it. It might not all be physical or emotional. Also, I agree with Layola in trying new things. Go to an Adult store and get some toys and new scented lubes and fun board games to use. Also, new positions are nice. And if need be, watch the porn together. Once you get aroused then the sex should be easier.

Holly gave a great answer.

I think you have to be careful here because viewing porn and masturbating has a very big downside for men... porn/masturbation addiction.

I think that you and your wife could benefit immensely from couples counselling so both your problems can be put on the table and talked about in a caring manner. Understanding oneself and one's spouse is the groundwork for a much happier life no matter what happens. What is going on now will lead to misery in the end.

Life is to enjoy! :)