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Well to start my name is killie and I am 25.
I have been in a relation ship for 8 years and have three boys all from the same guy .but in the 8 years my relationship has gone no where .he has not purposed to me and every time the marriage word comes up he tells me that I have to be a good women to him.ok mind you I cook,I clean his house,take care of his kids,and wash his clothes.and when the important holidays come up I get nothing that I should.and all he dose is yell at my kids and at me .but the most crazy thing is I love him.but you see my mom has been trying to help with this and I just don't listion to her so please some one help me to do the right thingplease I am still young.

Tell him since you are 'not a good enough woman' for him you and the kids are leaving.
What kind of things does your mom tell you? Would she let you stay with her.
He sounds like a bit of a control freak that is only concerned with himself.
You need to figure something out or it will go nowhere for another 8 to 80 years.

Call mom and see if she can give you, and the kids, a place to stay and then leave and get child support, while you rebuild your life.

Paraphrased idiom:

If you love him, let him go
If he comes back, he's yours
If he doesn't, he was never yours to begin with.
...8 years and kids aside.

Sorry, it's time for him to do some work in your life (starting with a wedding ring) or settle for child support. He can clean his own house/clothes.

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Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

Sorry, it's time for him to do some work in your life (starting with a wedding ring) or settle for child support. He can clean his own house/clothes.

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Exactly. If she leaves and he doesn't go with her it makes me wonder how much he really cared anyway. Often people will stay in a relationship because it is more convenient than uprooting and he could just be in it for the convenience of having her under his thumb cause she can't get him to budge with things she would like in a relationship.