My brother in law has nothing he is trying to sell off all of his possesions and move he recently came into some money but spent it all in 2 months and still has nothing to show for it. He is now giving and posting my address as his, giving our phone number to debt collectors. He has told many people I know that he owns a house, rv, and a boat all of which belong to me and my hubby. He also claimed that my son was his, until I announced it to my hubby in front of my brother in law he changed his tune quick on that issue. Then at the bar the other night he HIT UP on MY mother and told people he was my hubby even though we have not had any other form or relationship other than in laws. Should I talk to my hubby about how much this bothers me, even though his brother is the only family he has left. Please give me advice I don't know what to do.

Only based on what you have said, I would certainly let your husband know that these actions by your brother in law bother you.

Having said that, I also would question the brother in laws mental stability. He may be in a position where he wishes he could trade places with his brother. He may be envious or actually believe what he is saying. He might want desparately to take his brother's place in life... as he may not value his own life and circumstances much. Without knowing him, I can only question about what he may be led to do... if his desires to have his brother's life become stronger than he has already shown them to be.

You mentioned that he has nothing, and his brother, your husband, has house, rv, boat, and you. Going so far as to claim your son tops everything else. He is trying to place himself in his brother's life!

By using your address and phone number, he is setting you up for a lot of harassment from collectors.

He might be your husband's only family, but I personally think he is pushing that family connection well past the breaking point.

Having hit on your mother, seems to indicate that he is very drunk... then I wonder if he knew it was your mother... or thought it was you?? If he is planning on moving in with you, I would suggest you NOT go along with that idea. It sounds like major trouble.

It sounds like he is so envious of your husband that he is delusively trying to live his life.
You need to discuss it with your husband and get a stop put to it.
Get your number changed if you have to---and don't let him have it!

Thank you for your help. I think I will talk to my hunny about the issue and There is NO WAY IN **** I would let him move in with us. If does come to that it will be him or me and my baby.

I think he needs some type of medical/mental intervention. With the horrible things that I keep reading about,I would urge hubby to get him help.