I would like to know how to get out of a situation. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now but I have not been attracted to him for the past 2 years. I ended up one night at my best friends house znd had sex with one of her friends. Now for the past 3 weeks I have been talking to this new guy. He is totally gorgeous and really nice. I met his mom and his children and I like them a lot but I have 3 kids of my own and I do not know what to do because I am falling in love with this new guy. Someone help me please

Well 1st you seriously need to let go of your current boyfriend. I know its hard because you have being with him for 7 years, but its better to do it now before it gets any worst. You simply have to make yourself happy and if you are sure you love this new guy and he is the man for you then give it a shot. But as of your current boyfriend, just break up with him because you are only going to hurt him more if you keep having him around.

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Originally Posted by candy6raver

I would like to know how to get out of a situation. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now but i have not been attracted to him for the past 2 years. I ended up one night at my best friends house znd had sex with one of her friends. Now for the past 3 weeks i have been talking to this new guy. He is totally gorgeous and really nice. I met his mom and his children and I like them a lot but I have 3 kids of my own and I do not know what to do because I am falling in love with this new guy. Someone help me please

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Well two things we need to know:

1) are your kids with your current boyfriend?
2) Is the new guy comfortable with your children and the arrangement he has with him.

If your kids are not with your current boyfriend, then get the hell out. If you can't see him as a peer anymore then should be on your way, with or without new boyfriend.

If your kids are with your current boyfriend, you need to get it out in the air, the guilt you feel about sleeping with this other man cannot continue to sit in the back of your mind. That's not healthy for you. After you have done that, unfortunately the ball is in his court and the worst thing he can do is lawyer up and fight for his visitation rights.

Now with the new boyfriend, I would make sure that this isn't the primal "in love" feelings you get in the first month or so, make sure he's solid. It's a complicated situation, I do agree, but the best way you can come out of this is honest. The worst possible outcome in this case is that he's using you for sex, and in that case he's not going to care about the future. You did say you slept with him the first night you met so that says a little about his personality.

This is a simplistic way of looking at it. I'm sure you'll receive some concise advice on this website... there very good.!
Cheers

Just one question, when you lost feeling for your b/f, why didn't you honestly just leave him? I just want to know why you have to cheat, and betray someone, if the feelings have changed?