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  • Mar 3, 2008, 06:39 AM
    loverboy1982
    How to Know if Girlfriend is lying about being Raped
    It's the all too familiar line about lying about being a virgin. Yes I got that one until we had sex then she told me that she had undergone some test where a doctor had to insert something in her, then one day after I got the I was raped story. No one knew except this nurse who attended to her and apparently the guy who raped her is conveniently dead. He was shot sometime ago. I don't believer her. What do you guys think I should do.
  • Mar 3, 2008, 06:41 AM
    CrystalAngel
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by loverboy1982
    Its the all too familiar line about lying about being a virgin. Yes i got that one until we had sex then she told me that she had undergone some test where a doctor had to insert something in her, then one day after i got the i was raped story. No one knew except this nurse who attended to her and apparently the guy who raped her is conveniently dead. He was shot sometime ago. i don't believer her. What do you guys think i should do.

    Were you a virgin before you slept with her? If not then why is it so important for her to be a virgin?
  • Mar 3, 2008, 06:45 AM
    loverboy1982
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by CrystalAngel
    were you a virgin before you slept with her?? if not then why is it so important for her to be a virgin?

    Well I was not and it is not important that she was but I think she should have been honest and then to come up with a rape story I don't know how to handle this. Mind you I am not upset but I would just like to know the TRUTH
  • Mar 3, 2008, 06:48 AM
    bushg
    Loverboy is this the same girl that is spending all of your money?
  • Mar 3, 2008, 06:51 AM
    loverboy1982
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bushg
    Loverboy is this the same girl that is spending all of your money?


    Lol. Yes it is. Why can't I just get someone who loves me without the lies and the deceit you know. All I want is a happy life.
  • Mar 3, 2008, 06:53 AM
    CrystalAngel
    Ah well, if you know she is lying and just out for your money, why bother? Find someone who is worthy of your love
  • Mar 3, 2008, 06:56 AM
    JBeaucaire
    This girl's virginity stories are unverifiable. Give it up. My bet is it's beside the point anway.

    You CLEARLY don't trust her, not just this story but a bunch of other reason's you haven't shared, right? Trust your radar, step back from this girl, you're too close and you probably know it, and now you're scrambling for some excuses to ignore your own intuition.

    Don't do it. The point of dating is find that "match", someone you not only click with on the surface (like you have with this girl), but who also manages to uplift YOU at the same time. That's not happening here, time to back pedal.

    You're going to "like/love" a lot of girls/women, but few will be of the right ilk to stay the distance. If you're not honest with yourself about what you're discovering, well, we can't help you with self-delusion. If you are, we can encourage you to move on.

    It's not a failure when a relationship ends. It's a successful discovery of overall incompatibility. You don't owe it to anyone to stay with them just because you were once close.
  • Mar 3, 2008, 07:02 AM
    loverboy1982
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JBeaucaire
    This girl's virginity stories are unverifiable. Give it up. My bet is it's beside the point anway.

    You CLEARLY don't trust her, not just this story but a bunch of other reason's you haven't shared, right? Trust your radar, step back from this girl, you're too close and you probably know it, and now you're scrambling for some excuses to ignore your own intuition.

    Don't do it. The point of dating is find that "match", someone you not only click with on the surface (like you have with this girl), but who also manages to uplift YOU at the same time. That's not happening here, time to back pedal.

    You're going to "like/love" a lot of girls/women, but few will be of the right ilk to stay the distance. If you're not honest with yourself about what you're discovering, well, we can't help you with self-delusion. If you are, we can encourage you to move on.

    It's not a failure when a relationship ends. It's a successful discovery of overall incompatibility. You don't owe it to anyone to stay with them just because you were once close.


    Thank You so much.
    I don't want to Jump to conclusions because I am a very open minded person where I believe that everything is possible. However, NEVER in my life where I have thought that someone was lying and I was wrong. I can read body language very very well and I have a hunch that she is lying. Everything doesn't add up. She seem to have no emotional baggage from being a rape victim and taking into consideration that she was the one who initiated the intercourse.

    Thank you for your advice and I will do what I have to. I will keep you guys posted with developments
  • Dec 7, 2008, 01:01 PM
    livlghluv227
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by loverboy1982 View Post
    Its the all too familiar line about lying about being a virgin. Yes i got that one until we had sex then she told me that she had undergone some test where a doctor had to insert something in her, then one day after i got the i was raped story. No one knew except this nurse who attended to her and apparently the guy who raped her is conveniently dead. He was shot sometime ago. i don't believer her. What do you guys think i should do.

    Well she might be telling the truth because I was raped and people just want to be with someone they love and they try to forget about these things but they can't cause it's to hard and the fact that you don't think she was raped just makes you look like an cause you don't have proof that she wasn't so you can't say she wasn't.
  • Dec 7, 2008, 01:02 PM
    livlghluv227

    I honestly don't think she is lying cause I went through the same thing and it is scary you don't know what she really went through.
  • Dec 7, 2008, 06:16 PM
    JBeaucaire

    It's been nine months since he asked this question. I would like to know how things turned out.

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