I need to know tonight. Am I being irrational or is he?
I have a little situation here.
It first started this Friday when I was invited to a get together as well as my boyfriend (These were former students from our high school, but they are closer to me than they are to him).
Anyway, this was about the third get together/party, we were invited to and I went to all, but he was always busy or didn't feel like coming.
I felt that he should accompany me as he is my boyfriend!
Well, I let the two other times slide, but by the third, I was pretty angry.
The next day we were supposed to plan something together but I texted him saying I was busy. Then I called him to make sure he got my text, and he seemed pretty upset. So I felt bad, and rearranged so that we could do something together.
Then I started telling him that I was upset because of his no show on Friday even though he said he was genuinely busy. I started telling him how I felt about the situation and he had to go so I couldn't finish. So he said he'd call me to let me know he was on his way.
Then he called about one and a half hours later to tell me that he actually couldn't come because his mom was leaving on Monday and he didn't know about it, so he had to stay for dinner.
Once again I told him that I wasn't okay with that, because we had had a talk about him cancelling plans last minute. I told him to make sure he was free before making plans with me, and he did it again.
Anyway, I was clearly upset, and 7 minutes later he calls me. I didn't answer so he called about 9 times before sending a text saying he could actually come. I was still angry so I didn't answer, but after the 12th call I answered, and told him that he could have negotiated with his parents beforehand because we had already made plans, not because I was upset. I told him how I felt and said that I preferred we not do anything that night.
At that point he sounded very upset.
Now I feel bad. I'm not sure if I was to harsh on him or what. I did feel disrespected so I didn't want to call him today as I feel that it would show him that I would let him treat me in any way that pleased him. And I don't want that. I am very independent and like to be respected, but then again I feel bad easily.
I feel like he didn't do anything terrible, and he is always wonderful, and a great boyfriend. I just want to set it straight with him, that he can't screw with me.
Anyway, my question is: Should I call him to let him know exactly how I felt, and apologize if I hurt him in any way, and postpone for Tuesday, because I know he's free on Tuesday.
Or will that make me a doormat?
I'm going to see him tomorrow anyway, but I feel like we may need to talk.
What's your take on this?
Thanks!
