Ask Me Help Desk - What do I do?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now and I guess things are all right between us except for one fact: every female friend he has is an ex or has dated him.
I don't know if there's something wrong with me but it really bothers me.
The other day I asked my boyfriend if I could read is text messages out of pure curiosity and he was fine with it. In his inbox there was a message saying :
" You are WONDERFUL! Thanks for yesterday (he's a tae kwon do trainer and she just happens to go there) King Kong is on tv but it was more fun watching it with you ( they had seen the movie last year before we met) By the way, you're so fine, can't stop looking..."

He says they're really good friends and that it's a platonic relationship but I have a hard time believing that. They were together for 4 years, this was a few years ago but she was his first everything! And the reason they broke up was cause she had to marry this dude. Their marriage lasted 3 years and now she's single again.

I trust my boyfriend. I've known him since we were kids but I don't trust her!
She obviously still likes him... or?
Right now I'm just really confused. I've told him how I feel about the situation and that I felt it was disrespectful of her to send him that kind of message knowing he's in a serious relationship. All he had to say was that I'm being silly and that he would never ever even consider going back to her and then I suddenly feel stupid for feeling this way.

What do I do guys and what do you think about the situation? :confused:

Hi Rolex,

Aaaah I don't blame you for feeling "uncomfortable". I know you say you trust him, but inside you is this little bit of doubt, otherwise, it wouldn't concern you at all.

You say, it's the girls you don't trust, and I understand that as well. But if believe in your guy that he has integrity and would never do something to hurt you in that way, you wouldn't be having these doubts.

It could be because you have on been together for 5 months, and that's not really enough time to build the type of trust that you need right now.

Relax, let the relationship take it's course. If something hurts your feelings or causes you concern, share that with him. If he is the type of guy that listens to your concerns, and doesn't want you to feel any hurt... ya got a good one. If he is aloof and just blows your feelings off, then you deserve better.

Right now, 5 months isn't nearly enough time to feel either way. Breath :) and let him too.
Let the relationship grow. I would just keep my eyes open, but I wouldn't bring it up anymore until the two of you have a little bit more of a stronger foundation, and all that is needed for that, is more time together.

Don't be hard on yourself, most girls would feel just like you, but don't hurt the relationship before it actually has a chance to get started.

Eyes open, smile on face and just be you. When you first meet a girlfriend, you don't constantly worry if her other friends are more important then you, right? You just enjoy the friendship.

Part of a relationship is friendship. So be his friend as well and enjoy :)

Hope it all works out for you!

Communicate, trust him till he gives you just cause not too. :) enjoy what you have, and good luck :)

Thanks a lot for the good advice! I'll give it some time =)

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now and I guess things are all right between us except for one fact: every female friend he has is an ex or has dated him.

That is a good thing, as he must have not hurt any of them, and they are friends, so he must be one nice, understanding guy, who the females can accept as a friend. Do they hope for more? Maybe, but the still treat him nicely, and with respect. Not every guy can say their exes are still good friends. But you may be in that position also, some day. After all, they may be friends, but dating and his relationships didn't work for whatever reason. Maybe a good thing to ask, why they didn't work.

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The other day I asked my boyfriend if I could read is text messages out of pure curiosity and he was fine with it.

Again, he isn't hiding anything, so being still strangers, its to early to be tripping over his choice of friends, or being jealous. 5 months is not a long time, so relax, and enjoy getting to know each other well. Hmmm, could his relationships failures, be about the exes getting jealous, insecure, or demanding, because he is friendly with his exes, and obviously won't change? That's something to consider, before you get to carried away with your own feelings about them.

I see what you mean and like Allheart said, I guess I need to give our relationship some time to grow. .