Men don't like to talk... that I know about a lot of guys.. so what are some ways to help a man to communicate better after an argument ( esp when there mad about the issue or offended) instead of avoidance or a silent treatment or even just walking away?

I think this is something that guys need to develop as time goes by... its like a maturing thing. For example, I have no problem expressing my thoughts and opinions before, during, and after an argument... Although I consider myself a little more mature than most guys. But I do remember a few occasions where I used silent treatment, mostly because the reason for the argument was something the lady did, so I felt it was necessary for her to talk more and apologize and whatnot.

I don't know about it just being a mature thing.. Ive seen it in men in there late 20s 30s and 40it comes in all ages so when do they mature lol.

I would suggest telling the man that you are having a particular challenge with something and that he is the only one who can help with solving the problem. This does two things, it indicates to the guy that it is a problem that you are having and also that he can potentially feel good about himself because he can be a part of helping you to solve the problem that you are having. It's called winning without intimidation. Just my thoughts...

Ahh I like that one.. going to try that!

After an argument... wait till he cools off, and can think about it.

I think you should start give him 2/3 options not specificly but generally like I think that could be a reason we fought etc to break the ice , when someone is silent it means he needs space

Give a few minutes with himself. I do that and when I need a few minutes it helps then talk it over with him and see where you went wrong.