My mother was murdered when I was 19 And I am know 22 why can't I stop crying ? She was all I had and Ill never be the same with out her . What do I do

That kind of pain may last for a lifetime. I lost my mother, though not by death, at a very young age. She simply deserted us after her affair and later marriage to another man. No matter how much time goes by, I still feel that pain. All of my brothers seem to feel it to some degree, though the younger ones seem more affected by it. Just be thankful to have had her as long as you did. I haven't had relations with my mom since I was 8. Sorry about what happened. Losing my grandparents over the last few years was hard for me too. I cried over them for a while, and still do now and then. I just think of them and try to live my life in a way that would make them proud. You are never alone, I am here for you if you want to talk.

I am sorry for your loss.
This part of the grieving process, there is no set time. Did you get some counseling after this happened? It may help you to do that. There may be groups you can join for people who have lost loved ones to violence.
I wish you well.

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Originally Posted by sunnyluckey

My mother was murdered when I was 19 And I am know 22 why can't I stop crying ? she was all I had and Ill never be the same with out her . what do I do

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I lost my mama at 14 from heart disease! For me the pain has never went away! I could never find the mama love she gave me!

[QUOTE=tjshawty]I lost my mama at 14 from heart disease! For me the pain has never went away! I could never find the mama love she gave me! I have 3 kids now and I'm terrified that I'm going to leave them to early! My WONDERFUL MAMA was only 34 yrs old.

Don't stop crying until you are ready. When she comes to you, your mother, keep doing everything that comes to your mind and heart. She will help you move on, but cry when, if, and how long you need to. It really is okay.
I still cry... small, not guffaws, but quietly sometimes while driving and listening to some song I knew she liked... that is how you are honoring her. Take your time. Keep seeking support. We understand.

Someone killed my mother "just because." No theft - nothing. He just snapped and took the love of my life away. This happened last month. I'm so sad and angry and resentful to God right now. I know he has the answers to why, but those answers - whatever they are - don't fill me or console me. I miss her sooo much. It used to bug me when she would worry too much about me or was too nosy, but now the silence is unbearable. I walk around this world and it isolates me to see others living their own lives because they can't even fathom that the person in front of them had a parent who was loved murdered. So, I hope you vent. Vent, cry, and talk about your feelings. I lived with my sister's family for a while and I felt stifled because I could cry around her children. Also, I didn't want to worry her, so I bottled everything in. But I did no on any favors - especially myself - by pretending I'm okay when I'm not. So I moved back to my own place and I let myself cry all I wanted. It's the best decision I ever did. I let myself grieve the way my heart wanted to. I have only been doing this for 2 days, but I started to feel the importance of accepting to myself that I have right to cry and be depressed after losing her. She was a large part of my life. An unconditional love that because I'm young I took for granted. It's not that I'm being hard on myself, it's that I'm letting go of any insignificant resentment towards her and only feel how much I've always loved her and how much more she gave me than she received or ever asked from me. I think that my tears are only a reflection of how bigger than life my mother was. It is very had to accept that someone neither she nor I knew could take her life "just because." It just really pisses me off. But it's beyond my control and all I can do is remember my mom and cherish her love for me for the rest of my life. God be with those of your who are going through this. Be strong and live because that is what any loved one would want for you.