Every body makes mistakes, the situation will change only if the person is willing to change. Im 27 and I have cheated 4 times. I knew when I first met her that I wanted to marry her.(I found out that new people and even old so-called friends don't like you for you they like you for what you have, I had to learn that the hard way) I've been begging as if I was before JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF asking her to put this behind us so that we can get married. My girlfriend whom I lived with for 4yrs of 7years now my Fiancé has ask me for time apart. We have a 1yr old and things have just began to get hard. We both lost our jobs, I had my car repossessed, we have even changed our careers. I have a hard time displaying what I really feel. I basically love her so much we have tattoos of eachothers names and I HONESTLY CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT HER. I have a very great job opportunity to help both of our situations. She and my daughter are living by themselves and I'm back home with mom with aspirations to get my family back. At first it was supposed to be temporary now she tells me everyday that she does not want a relationship with me anymore. She cares for me still, but she does not want a relationship with me anymore, She still has my ring I hope that there is still hope for us.


PLEASE HELP ME GET MY FAMILY BACK

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Give her some time right now. Maybe a few months apart until you work on yourself and prove that you want and need her. Show them who is the DADDY! Stop freaking cheating!!

WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE!! YOU SHOULD NEVER CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE NO MATTER WHAT UNLESS YOU BREAK UP!! NO CHEATING!! NOOOOOO!!

Sounds as if she has had enough drama and bad luck, and realised she could do bad by herself, and save the drama and heartache. Accept the consequences of your actions, and work on you. Good luck, sorry no miracles today.

With all due respect, if you knew you were going to marry this person the first time you met her then why did you cheat on her 4 times? I'm sorry, but really at this point she has every right to push you out of her life. Think about it, would you really believe someone-- an individual who has cheated on you 4 times--that they will change and never do it again. I bet you told her those same nice things every time you got caught cheating.

Personally, I'm happy this woman is reconsidering the engagement because how can she trust someone who cheated on her 4 times? What is going to keep you from doing it again when your married? I don't want to be hard on you, but I do want you to face reality and accept the fact that you are suffering the consequences of your own actions.

If you truly love this person as much as you say you do then you will leave her alone and let her make her own decision. After that you need to begin working on yourself and learn from your mistakes. I suggest going to some counseling. Once you taken these steps, and if you still love this woman, then try re-establishing contact. But first of all, you need work on yourself and that will take several months to properly accomplish. Good luck.

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Originally Posted by JL FANATIC

Every body makes mistakes, the situation will change only if the person is willing to change. Im 27 and i have cheated 4 times. I knew when i first met her that I wanted to marry her.(I found out that new people and even old so-called friends don't like you for you they like you for what you have, I had to learn that the hard way) I've been begging as if I was before JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF asking her to put this behind us so that we can get married. My girlfriend whom i lived with for 4yrs of 7years now my FIANCE has ask me for time apart. We have a 1yr old and things have just began to get hard. We both lost our jobs, I had my car repossessed, we have even changed our careers. I have a hard time displaying what i really feel. I basically love her so much we have tattoos of eachothers names and I HONESTLY CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT HER. I have a very great job opportunity to help both of our situations. she and my daughter are living by themselves and im back home with mom with aspirations to get my family back. At first it was supposed to be temporary now she tells me everyday that she does not want a relationship with me anymore. She cares for me still, but she does not want a relationship with me anymore, She still has my ring i hope that there is still hope for us.


PLEASE HELP ME GET MY FAMILY BACK

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We all made mistakes, but you made it 4 times, and I am no one to judge, but there is only so much a person can take. You can't erase what you have done for the destruction of your relationship. However you can learn and strive to be a better person. YOU CAN LIVE.. This is no time to break down, and crumble... you have a child.. At least if the relationship can't be patched with the mother. You have a child who will love you unconditionally... AT times like this the child is the one who the attention should be focused on. Especially if the parents are separated... If this is her decision respect it give her the time she needs... In the meantime make the better relationship with the child...

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I have to get her back. PEOPLE CHANGE. THANK YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY

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Yes they do. But is enough to convince her? Work on you

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.(money is nothing but a tool to me Talaniman

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Then use it to make sure your son's needs are take care of while your working on you. It will not impress her one bit if she has to beg, or you make her negotiate. A good idea is to establish the child support, through the court, yourself. That would impress her. Lets face facts here, you have a long hard road, after all you cheated 4 times, and cannot expect to talk your way back to her heart. Doubt she is that dumb. You need positive actions, and an awful lot of it. It still may not work, but you have a child together, so you are tied to her, until age 18, or 22 if college is involved, so do this right.