Well it a longer story then it seems but ill tell you what I need help with. My friend and his girlfriend have been dating about 6 monthes and are said to be engaged(hes 18 , she's 15). She likes him a lot and he does to but its as though he just is missing something.His girlfriends close friend is some who he like and would like to go out with she's the same age. Him and his girlfriend currently live in two different country(us and canada) but when they start dating the lived close. He wants to end it with his girlfreind and still be friends with her , well he goes out with her friend... how does he do these? Any ideas?or comment?

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Guy is dating girl and are "engaged"

Guy likes girlfriend's friend.

Guy wants to date girlfriend's friend and remain friends with girlfriend.

... unless the girlfriend's just THAT nice or THAT stupid, it's not going to happen.

Tell romeo to do what makes him happy, but don't expect girlfriend to be his friend after he leaves her for girlfriend's friend.

Also, "engagement" after 6 months of dating in high school... is quite dubious.

This reminds me of a situation that happens a lot while fishing. The fisherman has two poles in the water at the same time. Both have bites at the same time, and either one could be a great catch. The fisherman has to make a decision.

Pick one and let the other one go.

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Originally Posted by oneguyinohio

This reminds me of a situation that happens a lot while fishing. The fisherman has two poles in the water at the same time. Both have bites at the same time, and either one could be a great catch. The fisherman has to make a decision.

Pick one and let the other one go.

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That's so true. It excally like fishing

Yeah I agree with you there he wouldn't be able to have his girlfriend as a friend. I keep telling him to go with his heart.

Cept in fishing, you usually don't pick one fish, let the other fish go, and hope that the fish you let go will wait at the bottom of the boat in case the one you picked is a small catch.

You will not be your FIANCE'S friend after that. You are lucky she is not in this country, in fact she probably, no she already has someone else anyway. But you will still have her best friend to love.

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Originally Posted by katringette22

My friend and his girlfriend have been dating about 6 monthes and are said to be engaged(hes 18 , shes 15).

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Isn't this illegal?

Let me get this straight, your "friend" is 18, she's 15, been together for 6 months and the are engaged to each other? Your "friend" also likes her friend who is also 15? There are so many things wrong with this. First tell your "friend" to stop fishing in the kiddy pool and meet somebody his own age. Second, Im pretty sure in some states this could be considered statutory rape. Third, why the hell would anybody want to be engaged that young and only after 6 months?

Are they really "engaged"... or is it one of those "i love you, here's a promise ring" type deals. You guys know what I'm talking about.

I miss those days... ah puppy love.

This is more for your friend. Try giving yourself time. That's how you learn more about yourself and more about what you want and need in life. It's the only way you can choose more wisely when you get older. People who date early usually end up dating most of their early years until they get married and never take even a year of not dating to figure out what it is that they really want and need. They never had time to really know themselves. Hence, the divorce rate in America, which is 50%. I definitely understand that strong feelings can come at any age. I just want you to understand something at least as just a thought.

I like to think of the 13 to 18 year periods as the learning years of life stages. I mean think about having a real girlfriend from the age of 15 until the age of 24. Do you really think at 15 or even 17, that a girl will last that long with a guy at such a young age when that is when people mostly change and learn? Even marriages don't last that long and those are the people that assume they know what they want and are getting into with the upmost commitment. All I'm saying is that it's almost unrealistic to think that close friends and gf's will be forever at a young age. More realistically, I'd say between the years of 25 and 35 is when one can find someone more compatible. I think what's important for the most part of life are just family and friends, like you said.

You're almost an adult. Having fun and doing things you wouldn't normally do like sky diving and so many other activities should consume you right now. Playing around, talking to many girls, doing crazy things and trying new things is what should be going on. Believe me, by 25 most of your life will have enough seriousness. Loans, school, work, bills, a marriage or girlfriend and possibly even more. Life will be very serious then. Right now try to make the best of these years and embrace it because many people regret it later on in life. I want you to enjoy it for all of humanity. Do it for us... lol Don't get too close to anybody and don't expect so much out of situations. Then you can for the most part, not be let down.

I know some feelings are unevitable and sometimes we get too close to people unintentionally, but try staying focused and keep your emotions in control. Don't ever let your emotions control you.