Ask Me Help Desk - Is it Always Going To Be Complicated?

Is it Always Going To Be Complicated?

Every guy I run into has issues, baggage or I'm just not interested... But NOW I'm really into this guy who I've known since JHS, we lost touch then found each other on myspace, now I'm 20 he's 21 and I wish I never found him on Myspace, he's all I think about, everyday. I just wany him out of my head, I DON'T trust him, I KNOW I can and should do better but there's still just a little something there, Every time I tell him to never call me again, he'll keep calling, and I'll miss him and pick up after many attempts... What can I do to rid myself of this clutch he has on my heart

... what... is going on..

1. why don't you trust him
2. why do you think you can do better?

Do you actually tell this guy to never call again?

Obviously, he's got you by SOME good quality. What is it?

Sort of sounds like she does ot want a commitment because of past relastionships. And relationships are only going to get harder and worst, in a few years, the men will be divorced, maybe having a couple kids, so men you date will also come with kids, ex wife's, and more. Then of course it could be the other way around, the guy not wanting you and you wanting him.

Im 27 with 2 kids I have experience from being cheated on to doing the cheating. It sounds live you have Falling IN LOVE. Be honest with him have him be honest with you. Help him with anything he needs, trust each other. My Fiancé tells me to stip calling her but I really can't do that, I miss her too much.

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What can I do to rid myself of this clutch he has on my heart

How about stop contacting him, and stop answering his calls, and cancel myspace. For a start.You can delete his number, or change yours. You have many options, if what you want is to be away from his attention. Up to you.

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Originally Posted by ItzZee

Every guy I run into has issues, baggage or I'm just not interested... But NOW I'm really into this guy who I've known since JHS, we lost touch then found each other on myspace, now I'm 20 he's 21 and I wish I never found him on Myspace, he's all I think about, everyday. I just wany him out of my head, I DON'T trust him, I KNOW i can and should do better but there's still just a little something there, Everytime I tell him to never call me again, he'll keep calling, and I'll miss him and pick up after many attempts... What can I do to rid myself of this clutch he has on my heart

Honey in the end it's your decision, in which you have to make, If TRUST is lacking it will be very hard to have a healthy relationship. TO trust someone is a greater compliment than love... so if this is an issue for you wheter its because he is not trustworthy or if this is an issue that you need to work on with yourself. Then in either situation you don't need to be in.

If you just have a hard time in general again.. these are things you need to work out.. You have a choice in this world to live a drama-free relationship choose wisely. Anytime you ignore someone else issues you are settling.

The key is to get to know people and trust them to be who they are. Instead, we trust people to be who we want them to be- and when they're not we cry.

I think you are confused and may miss him with the fear of being alone, or perhaps you just miss the attention, but if this is not where you want to be then simply don't.. He needs to respect your decision and don't feel pressured to stand up and tell him what you feel.. as tala stated... Change your number, etc...

"The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live"
Flora whittemore

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Originally Posted by ItzZee

Every guy I run into has issues, baggage or I'm just not interested... But NOW I'm really into this guy who I've known since JHS, we lost touch then found each other on myspace, now I'm 20 he's 21 and I wish I never found him on Myspace, he's all I think about, everyday. I just wany him out of my head, I DON'T trust him, I KNOW i can and should do better but there's still just a little something there, Everytime I tell him to never call me again, he'll keep calling, and I'll miss him and pick up after many attempts... What can I do to rid myself of this clutch he has on my heart

What I would do is to change my phone number and never see him again and rename your myspace they is what I would do

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

...what...is going on...?

1. why don't you trust him
2. why do you think you can do better?

do you actually tell this guy to never call again?

obviously, he's got you by SOME good quality. What is it?

1. He's been breaking up with his g/f (who he claims to be having problems with) for months now. I'll catch him in small unnecessary lies. A girl that he used to date told me not to take everything he says seriously because "that's how he is".

2. I can do better because I'm cuter than him, smarter than him, I'm in a higher social class than he is, I don't have a reputation because I've never done anything and I have done better ( but mostly on a superficial level). - I don't mean to sound snotty, but these are facts.

3. And YES I tell him that I don't want to speak to him ever again.

4. His good qualities are... he's kind of shy ( I like that) but he has an appealing charm that I can't really describe, he's harmless ( he never tried anything, he doesn't ask either), and he's generally very respectful of me.