So I have been sexually active for 4 years now, but not once have I had an orgasm. I have tried lots of different things and nothing works. Toys, my showerhead... nothing. I just don't understand. Is it because I'm too young? Im only 18. Someone please help me to understand.

Missy

Do you climax if you masturbate?

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Originally Posted by Xrayman

do you climax if you masturbate?

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Ya I climax but that's it...

Right, so that means you can have an orgasm? I'm lost-you can when you masturbate, but you can't with a vibe? Are you placing it correctly? (against your clitoris? Etc?)

Are you talking about no orgasm with a partner or by yourself??

Simply put, it will happen eventually. There's nothing wrong with you most likely. You have only been sexually active since you were 14, and it makes since that you have never had a true orgasm. I became sexually active at 14 also (huge mistake), and did not experience my first true orgasm until I was 20. At 20, I was with someone I was truelly in love with and he with me. He, unlike my previous lovers, was more focused on satisfying me, and not just satisfying himself, and that made all the difference in the world. We are no longer together 10 years later, but he understood that it was not just about him. Here's a helpful hint though if it is really that important for you to experience an orgasm: date an older, more experienced man. My best sexual experiences and orgasms have all been with men over the age of 30, yes, even when I was 20. Try it, you'll like it.

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Originally Posted by slmckee12

Simply put, it will happen eventually. There's nothing wrong with you most likely. You have only been sexually active since you were 14, and it makes since that you have never had a true orgasm. I became sexually active at 14 also (huge mistake), and did not experience my first true orgasm until I was 20. At 20, I was with someone I was truelly in love with and he with me. He, unlike my previous lovers, was more focused on satisfying me, and not just satisfying himself, and that made all the difference in the world. We are no longer together 10 years later, but he understood that it was not just about him. Here's a helpful hint though if it is really that important for you to experience an orgasm: date an older, more experienced man. My best sexual experiences and orgasms have all been with men over the age of 30, yes, even when I was 20. Try it, you'll like it.

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Kk thanks. The last girl I was with was28 so you. Im not a big fan with guys because of what all they have done but you maybe ifI got with one it could happen. So IDK...

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Originally Posted by Xrayman

Right, so that means you can have an orgasm? I'm lost-you can when you masturbate, but you can't with a vibe?? are you placing it correctly? (against your clitoris? etc?)

Are you talking about no orgasm with a partner or by yourself????

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Its only when Im with someone else...

My opinion is that you started having sex too young, there is a certain amount of maturity(physical and emotional) needed in a woman to have full orgasmic capacity. I think you should stop having sex and work on other aspects of your personality for a few years.

There is some truth to what Choux said...

I've dated girls who were active since they were 15... and I've also dated girls who I was their first at the age of 20. You can notice a difference in the way they treat the entire process... as the girls who were active at a young age tend to not be as passionate and as "active in bed"...

This may be a stereotype, but it also seems like they don't "try" hard enough or seem to really enjoy it.

Whereas the girls who began to be active around 20... they know what they want in bed and they go after it like it's the holy grail.

Perhaps stopping sex + finding yourself may be a bit extreme... but perhaps you should take a look at your perspective on sex and intimacy. Although it may seem like it's the guy's responsibility to get you to orgasm... it won't happen unless you want it to.