My girlfriend of almost a year randomly left me without even telling me we were over. She pretty much just ran away. No cell phone. Nothing to get a hold of her. And I get a stupid myspace message saying it was over. Ive had another girlfriend since then but I guess it was just a relationship for me to get over her. Now I have dreams/nightmares with her in them. I found out she was using drugs behind my back and she cheated on me once or twice. I never knew or had a clue about any of this. I treated her great, and it seemed like everything was going fine. I just need help on how to get over her. Even though she hurt me so much I can't seem to meet new girls and develop any feelings for them. I guess now I will have trust issues with any girls I meet. I NEED help. :(. Im a 21/m. I considered this a real serious relationship. This girl also called me a month after breaking up telling me she was pregnant with my child and was getting an abortion. This hurt me real bad. After that I never heard from her.:(

Sounds like a psycho-b*!#$! Type that I am currently dealing with. That is what she is, IneedHelp222. Sign up for the putative father registry. It is your best hope for now. Spend time on you right now. You don't have much time to give your best to another girl until you resolve this possible child issue. Trust me, I know...

XenoSapien

That is pretty effed up. She is obviously emotionally and mentally unstable. :( Just be glad that she is out of your life. It doesn't sound like she made you happy and has done a great job a making you miserable. What good is that?

Everyone gets hurt in relationships, unfortunately,whether or nt they have happy endings. Maybe you haven't found that right someone to get serious with again. What can you do, but get up, brush yourself off, and try again.

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Seek the path of whether you are a father, Ineedhelp222. Everything else in completely unimportant. The one thing that is definitely above ALL WOMEN is a child.

XenoSapien

You were in very deep guy and she wasn't so she screwed up your head pretty good. Give yourself more time, and be very patient with yourself. Good thing it was a clean break, but has a lot of other tings that have left its mark, lying and cheating, without your knowledge have left a mark, so be aware that it will be a long time in the healing. Talking to someone to help you vent, and see that you are not to blame, she was, and she intentially used your feelings against you. Take your time, and put your life back together, and forgive yourself, and learn to love yourself.

I appreciate the help guys ^^^ ,it means a lot there are people out there to help.. thanks:)

As you "remember" this gal, be fair. To keep saying to yourself "she was so wonderful this" and "she was so awesome at that" and ignore what she DID bad as well is just crazy.

"He was the nicest neighbor a person could ever have...except for the fact that he kept killing my dogs." Get it? If you're not willing to equalize this stuff in your memory, then nothing anyone says here is going to help, you'll just keep driving yourself nuts over this awesome girl... who also cheated, lied, threatened, abortion, etc. Oh my goodness!

In my opinion, dude, you have dodged a HUGE bullet.

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As you "remember" this gal, be fair. To keep saying to yourself "she was so wonderful this" and "she was so awesome at that" and ignore what she DID bad as well is just crazy.

"He was the nicest neighbor a person could ever have...except for the fact that he kept killing my dogs." Get it? If you're not willing to equalize this stuff in your memory, then nothing anyone says here is going to help, you'll just keep driving yourself nuts over this awesome girl...who also cheated, lied, threatened, abortion, etc. Oh my goodness!

In my opinion, dude, you have dodged a HUGE bullet.

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Your so right.. thanks for the help..

Trust me on this one... you will find another better.