Hi,

I am in trouble as I want my ex-boyfriend back... I was the one who dumped him to another man... I real don't know what came over me... we have together with the other boy for about one year and half but I think he is not the man I want in my life so I decided to stop our relationship and beg my ex-boyfriend to come back to me since he was still in love with me he agreed with conditions that I should give him time...

Please I don't think if he is ready for me or am too hurry.

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Why would someone who got dumped, come back after you decided the other guy didn't work? He would be a fool, wouldn't he. Do you really have to be with someone, to be happy?

Can I ask how old you are? You want to go back to your ex cause he is still in love with you... Are you still in love with him? What ever trouble you guys had before that made you unhappy the first time are still going to be there this time won't they? Leave the man alone. Don't break his heart a second time. Find someone new.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Why would someone who got dumped, come back after you decided the other guy didn't work?? He would be a fool, wouldn't he. Do you really have to be with someone, to be happy?

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Since it wants me to spread the rep, sorry tal, but I agree with Tal, do you really need to be with some one to make you happy, Shouldn't you be happy by yourself

You obviously had reasons for dumping him, whatever they may be. You should learn to trust yourself and understand what you want in life.

You got greedy and selfish... He was probably a great guy, and maybe you were too infatuated with someone else to see what you already had. If he wants to take you back then he either must be crazy, or down on himself... but if you want him back just because you don't want to be alone, leave him be, you've done enough damage.

But if you think you made a mistake and you really do love him, you'd better have a pretty damn good excuse/apology... that might be the only way I'd take you back.

But really, if you're just being more selfish right now... then leave him alone

Thanks for your answers.. but why do women soften when it comes to that and for a man it is hard to forgive and forget...

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Originally Posted by Queentall

Thanx for your answers.. but why do women soften when it comes to that and for a man it is hard to forgive and forget...

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What do you mean? That women break up nicer than men... in my experience I was blatantly lied to, and when I found out I was lied to, it made it so much harder... if she was a better liar, or if she told me the truth, then at least I could respect that. How's that for nice?

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Originally Posted by Queentall

Thanx for your answers.. but why do women soften when it comes to that and for a man it is hard to forgive and forget...

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Because a lot of women think they can't live without a man so we are constantly on the search for a new one, a better one, etc. We will put our morals, opinions and needs aside in the hopes that we can "change them". Then when it doesn't work we get upset and look for someone else. As far as jumping back an forth between men, It is easier to go where you have already been.

Men don't feel the need to constantly have a girlfriend. They can hold a grudge and not feel like they should "Try Again" with someone because they know there are many other women out there looking for someone else.