Hello there, I am 24 yrs old and I am having a hard time trying to make sense of what has just happened in my life. My girlfriend of 1 and half years and we lived together for the past 1 year told me she wanted a break today. About a month ago she had said the same thing but nothing really ever happened I didn't move out or anything things just went on then today she said that she wanted a break and didn't want to remain together during it. She needed space, No times were set or anything. It was very emotional for both of us because I truly feel we are in love and that it just became to normal, and we were taking advantage of each other by having each other there all the time, I mean we did everything together. I haven't done any contact all day today this happened in the morning and I just feel awful. We had planned to move to Kansas in August and she said that she just wants to make sure that we can both be good on our own before we can both be good together because we were both very dependent on each other, I know I am rambaling but any advice? Is there any chance we will work things out? And I am staying with a friend on the couch for now but all my stuff is still over there like my bed some clothes my xbxo 360 and all that because it is not that easy to just get everything in go when you have lived there for a year, so anything will help thanks in advance.

I think she is being honest when she says she wants to make sure before you make your big move together. I don't think all is lost. Give her the time she needs. Just tell her you love her and respect that she needs some time to think. If she loves you, she will really appreciate that you are willing to do this for her. I know it will be difficult, but it may stregthen your relationship in the long-run.

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We had planned to move to Kansas in August and she said that she just wants to make sure that we can both be good on our own before we can both be good together because we were both very dependent on each other,

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So instead of talking to her partner, and working with you, she decides a break is what you need. What a bunch of crap. That's not how loving relationships, that are strong go. This is a prelude to a break up, and your already gone. Now you can let her control this relationship, and do as your told, or you can be a man, and get your stuff, and let her have all the break she wants. But your blinded by love, and willing to wait, until she says breaks over, and you will be happy to go back to life the way it was. It ain't going to happen, nor should you want it to, under those circumstances. If your supposed to be half this team, why is she making all the rules for you to follow. Yeah, tell me about the love, where is it, and the respect, you have neither, not even a friggin Xbox. Your lucky to have a couch. Get your stuff, get your dignity, and let her have her break, and pay her own rent.

Hello there so last night she texted me goodnight and I textexed back goodnight then today she called and I answered and she was crying and all that and she was like what's up and I told her about everything I had already done like get new living arangements and a new job and all this and she was like I just don't want you to forget about me and she just seemed scared like what does all that mean and then at the end I was like I have to go I got a bunch of stuff to do and she was like I love you any comments?

Sorry Talaniman, I think you are being too harsh. People deal with things differently. Maybe her feelings about him and the move freaked her out so much and her reaction was to push him away. It may just be that she wasn't mature enough to sit down and talk about things. Gettingbackout there, I think you do need to take control of the situation and tell her that you are willing to give her space as I said in my last post, but that you won't be sitting around--you are going to continue on the path you were on with your life. You need to have a conversation about your stuff and living arrangements. I am a believer in fate. If it's meant to be, it will all come together.

Well I think that you should talk to her and tell her that you love her so much , ask the reason why she took this descion , is she involve in some or anything she does nt like about you , convey your true feelings to her , and then respect and accept her answer , and react accordingly if you can wait for her , I mean so she can decide about u , as may be she is saying all that to test you faithful or not, so talk to her :), all the best

Thanks a lot I will kepp you up to date I may give it a day before I call her just because I don't know if talking to her everyday would be the best thing cause she needs to have time with her feelings so we can talk about them I think ill get back to you.

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Thanks a lot I will kepp you up to date I may give it a day before I call her just because I don't know if talking to her everyday would be the best thing cause she needs to have time with her feelings so we can talk about them I think ill get back to yeah.

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what happened with all that? Im very courious... I was in the same boat for 7 years I Was with my high school sweetheart same thing... after moving out and getting a girlfriend of 6 months later she one day said she was tired of being alone we got another place together... im 23 now we got together when I was 16... pretty weird how stuff happends but everything happends for a reason bud... everything... most of the time for future betterness... if that's correct grammar lol