A semi-close friend asked me a few months ago to be in her wedding (in august). Upon recent budgeting and number crunching, I've found that I simply cannot afford the bridesmaid dress, gas for the 10.5 hour trip there and back (I'm moving in july), hair and makeup, etc. I feel that it would be in the best interest of both of us if I backed out, but I'm not sure what the best way to go about this would be. We are still in school together and will still see each other on a regular basis until graduation in may, and I don't want these last few months to be awkward and filled with resentment.

Please help!

Mabey you could say I can't be their on that day for varies reason or if she is a close enoffe friends tell her the truth

You tell her now that you simply cannot afford the expenses. Not everyone can. She will appreciate your honesty now. Gives her time to find a replacement. I had asked one of my cousins to be a bridesmaid and she told me she would love to but could not, due to finances. Anyone can understand that.

But tell her now. Do not wait. Good luck.

Yes, just tell her the truth, and tell her as soon as possible.

Just simply tell her you cannot afford it. Everyone understands that. Being in a wedding is expensive and I'm sure she will understand and will not resent you. If she does then she is not a true friend.

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Originally Posted by sarahkatelyn

A semi-close friend asked me a few months ago to be in her wedding (in august). upon recent budgeting and number crunching, i've found that i simply cannot afford the bridesmaid dress, gas for the 10.5 hour trip there and back (i'm moving in july), hair and makeup, etc. i feel that it would be in the best interest of both of us if i backed out, but i'm not sure what the best way to go about this would be. we are still in school together and will still see each other on a regular basis until graduation in may, and i don't want these last few months to be awkward and filled with resentment.

please help!

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The best thing to do is tell her the truth. Maybe she can help you come up with a way to pay for it. She should understand the whole thing. So don't worry too much. If she doesn't understand then she isn't a good friend.