I am Dumoris, and this is my first time on this site, and I hope that I will be able to help others with whatever issues that they might be facing, and I hope the same will be done for me as well. My questions to you are how can I get rid of a man who does not care about me? How can I know when a man cares about me?

I think you just know. I know it's hard to except sometimes but everybody deserves to be with someone who cares for them and nobody is going to grab your happiness but you. Talk to the person and be open about how you feel but don't show your vulnerabilities. If your not reassured ,well then I think the answer on how to let him go will just come to you if you will let it. Hope this helps

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Originally Posted by dumoris

how can I get rid of a man who does not care about me?

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Easy tell him its over.. I'd rather have someone hate me for telling the truth than love me for telling a lie.. whenever you are faced in a situation that is not helping you grow, then you need to let it go.

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Originally Posted by dumoris

How can I know when a man cares about me?

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You will know by his actions.

Yeah... if you feel like he doesn't care about you, chances are, your intuition's right.

To get rid of him?

1. tell him it's over.
2.. . that's it.

Generally knowing when someone cares about you is pretty easy, its all about the little things. Paying attention to what's important to you, being there when you need them... bringing you a cookie when you had a bad day.
Getting rid of someone is easy as well, just be honest. There is so much unnecessary confusion when it comes to relationships unless you both communicate clearly and honestly.

Love is an action. It's what you do, not what you say.

Does the man live with you? What is the relationship?

Getting rid of any one is simple, stop feeding him what he needs. It's the emotional fallout that's tough. You'll know he cares by what he does, he'll feed you what you need. Not only will he want to do it, he will do it forever.

How certain are you that he doesn't care? That's a strong statement to make. Sometimes I find myself making that assumption and not accepting the responsibility that he may not care about you the way you want him to care.

Sometimes the heart of the problem is how you are interpreting the gestures in your relationship. That's not to say a careless attitude is acceptable between two people, but once you think someone doesn't care about you it creates a void that you are constantly trying to fulfill, and affects your self-esteem greatly. In many instances, it creates a nasty cycle and puts you in a negative state of mind.

I would suggest re-considering the definition of 'care', and then deciding whether your feelings are being reciprocated equally or if you can identify how he cares because everyone does it differently. If it's not enough, then tell him. If he is indifferent or vague I would suggest setting your sights on pulling out of the situation.