I Have Very Strong Feelings For This Woman That I Work With I See Her Monday Through Friday And I Text Hr During Th Weekends. I Take Her Stop On The Train And Keep Going She Doesn't Know That I Don't Need To Go Out There Anymore I Just Like Being Around Her. She's So Beautiful Both Inside And Out. W Both Have Feelings For One Another But We Don't Want To Mess Up Our Friendship And Her Marriage. The Thing Is She's Everything I Asked For In A Woman But The Thing Is She's Married I Don't Know What To Do Im Always Thinking Of Her. Friday I Went To Her House And Where Standing In The Hallway In Her Apt And I Couldn't Look At Her Because If I Did I Probably Wold Have Kissed Her And Yea I Know That Wrong But Know A Days It Seems Like I Want To Be Wrong Ive Been Single For Quiet Sometime Know I Want To Move On But The Person I Want To Move On With I Can't Be With. Please Give Me Your Advice On This Situation. Oh Yeah Were Also Best Friends

You are almost in a big-time mess. Do you have medical and life insurance?

No you are a stalker and have serious problems, Please talk to a mental health professional. You take her train just to "watch" her, you to to her home, you text her.

This is wrong in oh so many ways, she has a husband and she is not free to date you or be with you, You are only going to ruin her life and most certainly ruin yours,

If you are not emotionally abel to stop this, change jobs and move on with your life somehow.

I agree with Fr_Chuck.. you should be away from her and find someone else somewhere else. Do not ruin her life. The world is full of women.

If she is leading you on in any way and not telling you to knock it off, then I feel for you, you poor stupid sap. BUT you following her on the train, going to where she lives and standing in the hallway, that is SICK!

Best friends? In what way? Share the same interests? In what way? You both have feelings for each other? Explain this all. Have you met her husband? What does he think of your best friends relationship with her? Maybe you should, next time you stalk her dwelling, knock on the door and introduce yourself to him and explain yourself (that's the part where you need good health insurance).

You are in a dangerous situation. Not only are you foolish but you are pursuing another man's wife, for crying out loud. What would happen if your work place found out about the two of you sharing so many interests and deep feelings?

What is up with the texting on the weekends? Oy vey! Get out, get out, get out of this relationship. You have fixated on her and it sounds like she is not stopping any of it either. You both are mentally unbalanced. I suppose she tells you garbage like she cannot leave her husband. That is the oldest line in the marriage world.

You are on a bad road.

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Originally Posted by hamildsmith

I Have Very Strong Feelings For This Woman That I Work With I See Her Monday Through Friday And I Text Hr During Th Weekends. I Take Her Stop On The Train And Keep Going She Doesn't Know That I Don't Need To Go Out There Anymore I Just Like Being Around Her. She's So Beautiful Both Inside And Out. W Both Have Feelings For One Another But We Dont Want To Mess Up Our Friendship And Her Marriage. The Thing Is She's Everything I Asked For In A Woman But The Thing Is She's Married I Dont Know What To Do Im Always Thinking Of Her. Friday I Went To Her House And Where Standing In The Hallway In Her Apt And I Couldn't Look At Her Because If I Did I Probably Wold Have Kissed Her And Yea I Know That Wrong But Know A Days It Seems Like I Want To Be Wrong Ive Been Single For Quiet Sometime Know I Want To Move On But The Person I Want To Move On With I Can't Be With. Please Give Me Your Advice On This Situation. Oh Yeah Were Also Best Friends

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Love is never easy and this is one of the most treacherous of all. I loved my best friend and she was married. Her husband worked for me and for many years we wer good friends. Eventually she broke up with her husband but it was still not our time and I supported her in her quest for happiness and she did mine. After more years we finally got together and are now very happy and married 2 years ago.
Long story short. If you love her and she is good to you you can wait and see what happens.
If you love her and she is teasing you, you will know and can move on
If you love each other, hold the friendship tight and if it is meant to be it will come together.
Best wishes
Dale

First, your opening post says it all. You are single, she is married.

Stop right there. What makes you think that just because you are enamored with this lady?

If nothing else it is screaming at you to go away and leave her be. You have zero right to bring misery into her life just because you love her.

Goodness knows, I think the world of Angelina Jolee (?) does that give me the right to act a member of the "paparazzi" and track her down like an animal?

You need to grow up here and leave the lady alone.