We just broke up. We fought over really stupid things. We've been together for about a year. And I really thought we were soul mates. I don't really want to be with anyone else. I know there's SO many other guys out there, who knows those guys out there could be better. But I want this guy. He already said it was over. But I don't know what to do anymore... :( I don't know if I shouldn't talk to him for a while, Or just act normal like nothing has happen... or what.
I would like some advice on how to act around him so when I do ask him to take me back, he will take me back.
When we do get back together if we do. I don't want to make these mistakes of fighting.
I don't know ether how long I should leave it until I ask him..

Thank you...

Don't ask him to take you back, move on, He may someday realize he made a mistake and try to come back to you. I would say to act cordial around him, do not over do it. If you fought over stupid things, could be one or both of you was not ready for a relationship. My boyfriend broke up with me for something I did, and I deserved it, but after a few days of us not being together he left me a note saying he wanted me back, you don't know what you have till its gone. We are going on 8 years now and very happy.

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Originally Posted by tashamarie80

Don't ask him to take you back, move on, He may someday realize he made a mistake and try to come back to you. I would say to act cordial around him, do not over do it. If you fought over stupid things, could be one or both of you was not ready for a relationship. My boyfriend broke up with me for something I did, and I deserved it, but after a few days of us not being together he left me a note saying he wanted me back, you don't know what you have till its gone. we are going on 8 years now and very happy.

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Wow 8 years that's a lot, see that's what I want him, to come back to me saying he wants me back. But I don't know what to do so he will come back

Live your life as best you can without him, if you try to get him back you may end up with more problems down the road. And who knows? In the process you may find someone who you love more, who makes you happier even though he is someone different.

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Originally Posted by tashamarie80

Live your life as best you can without him, if you try to get him back you may end up with more problems down the road. And who knows? in the process you may find someone who you love more, who makes you happier even though he is someone different.

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I don't even know where to look though:eek:

LOL that's the thing, don't look, just live for awhile. Work, go out with the girls, have fun with out actively looking for a man, they are overrated lol. No but really, It is best to be comfortable being on your own and loving yourself before getting into another (or the same) relationship.

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Originally Posted by tashamarie80

LOL thats the thing, don't look, just live for awhile. Work, go out with the girls, have fun with out actively looking for a man, they are overrated lol. No but really, It is best to be comfortable being on your own and loving yourself before getting into another (or the same) relationship.

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But Ive never really loved myself for me... My family always puts me down if I mess up on anything... how embarrassing

You need to love yourself, don't let them put you down, everyone makes mistakes. I make plenty of mistakes but Iaugh at myself and I don't let anyone put me down. I grew up in a house where my mother was abused, by many men, my "dad" who adopted me when was 6 months old decided when I was 11 that he no longer wanted me for a daughter because he was getting remarried to a lady (I have other names for her ;-)) with 5 kids. I spent many years angry at pretty much everybody, I thought I had no feeling left in me really. I found in my life though that animals, babies, and the people I work with in the nursing home really like me and are drawn to me, I have learned from my parents mistakes and only depend on myself, even though I have been in a relationship for a long time. You have to take care of you first. Find something in your life that makes you happy and fulfilled with out being fulfilled because you are with this man.

Also if you would like to talk more, you can email me or send a private message, I will be online for a little longer, and am usually on at least once a day

You know what they say right?

You can't love someone until you love yourself?

.. oh... so.. true.

Be on your own for a little bit... do things you enjoy... sooner or later, you'll find this weird happiness on your own. THEN and ONLY THEN can you actually find someone to be REALLY happy with...

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

you know what they say right?

you can't love someone until you love yourself?

..oh...so..true.

be on your own for a little bit...do things you enjoy...sooner or later, you'll find this weird happiness on your own. THEN and ONLY THEN can you actually find someone to be REALLY happy with...

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You Ive heard that saying and I like it, I just haven't really followed it