Lately it has become very hard to find someone I can trust. Let me be more specific. I'm a very mature man. I have learned to look beyond outside beauty. When I look around, I can't help but noticed that many of the women around my way are more into material things and fianancial status. It's seems like nowadays not too many women are looking personality or character in a man. When most women see me, they are more concern about my outfit then my personality. For the most part they care about money. My questions to you are 1) should I believe in the myth that" all good things come to those who wait". 2) Or just don't think about dating for while. 3) Or should I just go after older and mature women since the younger are tend to be immature?

There are older, immature women that can rival any young, immature woman - hands down. Some just never grew up and sadly, have spawned other women that are replicas.

I have heard that myth too, that all good things come to those who wait. It might well be true. I am still waiting to find out.

I would hold off on the dating, in your case and not call it dating at all. Perhaps you are too eager to "date" someone. What steps do you take to become a friend first and boyfriend second?

It's no myth. Good things really do come to those who wait. There's no harm in "dressing to impress" but I agree that any woman whose primary focus would be on what you wear isn't worth the time of day. While an older woman may be more mature, be careful not to stereotype and overgeneralize. Shallowness comes in all ages and so does character. It's really an individual thing and can't be categorized.

Sign up for the book discussion group at your public library. Not only will you get to read some fantastic books, but you will meet a lot of women--and most of them are real.

All good things come to those who take action.

Look different places than what you have been looking. You do have a better chance finding an older woman that isn't looking for the material things. Look for down to earth type women that have a plainer look jeans, no make up.
They tend to be more down to earth than the flashy ones that wear all the make-up and designer fads.

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Originally Posted by haitiano12

Lately it has become very hard to find someone I can trust. Let me be more specific. I'm a very mature man. I have learned to look beyond outside beauty. When I look around, I can't help but noticed that many of the women around my way are more into material things and fianancial status. It's seems like nowdays not too many women are looking personality or character in a man. When most women see me, they are more concern about my outfit then my personality. For the most part they care about money. My questions to you are 1) should I believe in the myth that" all good things come to those who wait". 2) Or just don't think about dating for while. 3) Or should I just go after older and mature women since the younger are tend to be immature?

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Maturity is a mental state and unfortanetly age has nothing to do with it. My question to you is that are you flamboyant? Are you perhaps giving off the impression that you are materialistic? Strutting your success? Good things do come to those who wait, and most importantly where are you meeting these women? Remember in the end you are choosing who you date, can't blame them for being the way they are as if you didn't see that when you started dating them. Unfortanetly in this vain world before conversation visual is usually the first thing we see. Character shows in a person on how they treat people who can offer them nothing.. consider where and how you attract these women and perhaps you wouldn't run tinto these problems

If you fish at the same spot each day most likely you always catch the same type of fish, If you fish in different spots and use different baits you will catch varoius type of fish.

So if you are ending up with always the same type of women, you are presenting yourself or looking for them in the same places and ways.

There are all sorts of women out there

There is no 100% link between emotional mature and age. It depends on personal past experience, perception of herself, etc.

I work as fashion salesperson. Most customers, I would think (maybe I am wrong), who buy these flashy things to dress up, is not what they need, instead of, is what they think about themselves. They have a inner figure (or we call unrealistic expectation of themselves) to promote to do more make-up nad more dress-ups. This point would explain wthat why some immature people like to marry someone with plenty money. High-end fashion products are quite expensive (at least for me:).

My customers group from age 20 to 70. They all want to look like super model on the runway...

If you want have something good, you have to want and find...