Should I send my ex a birthday card?
So here goes - I dated a man last year that was in the final stages of his 6 year marriage - yes I allowed myself to be the "rebound" girl. We started as friends, I visited his restaurant (my daughter worked for him last summer and he got to know me through her!) He totally pursued me and within three months we were heavy - needless to say, when he relaized he bit off more than he could chew - he backed off and ultimately send me an email saying he loved me but he had to grieve his marriage (all stuff I have always been aware of and initially held back because I knew this - but, you know how love goes... ). I was hurt and humiliated that he ended it the way he did - but over the past three months I've come to terms with the fact that we had a great time for three months and it is what it is. I do still have feelings for him - and at times I miss him (we planned a lifetime in four months together!) What I find I miss the most is his company and his sense of humor. I know for a fact that he has been asking about me - my daughters and he are still friends! I stepped back and have had absoluely no contact with him whatsoever - He asked a friend of my daughter how I was doing and just recently he asked my daughter (I didn't find this out through her, she would never tell me he is asking).
So his birthday is coming up next weekend - I'd like to send him a card but don't know if he thinks I'm trying to get back with him - I'm not. I just want to reach out and somehow let him know there are no hard feelings. Should I just leave it alone? He clearly broke it off with me - I respectfully cut all ties and moved on. Will a card make him think I'm all broken up over him still? HELP!