Should I even try to talk to her? I'm in such a confusing situation
All right, this is a long story, but I need some advice and fast. I don't know why my girlfriend is acting this way at all...
So I flew down with my gf's mom to watch my girlfriend graduate from Air Force basic training on Thursday. Like I expected, it was kind of awkward most of the day. We haven't seen each other or spoken other than writing letters for the last two months. So throughout the day we were kind of quiet towards each other, and kind of opened up near the end. But when we were sitting there, she told me no offense, but she's probably not going to get married. That the Air Force was going to be her career and she wants to put her self into that. I was like great, this doesn't sound very promising. I kind of shrugged it off because I didn't want to upset her. Apparently my reaction to that really ticked her off. I didn't even intend to sound mean or anything. But wow, just a couple letters ago she was saying she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. Now she's saying this? Anyway, that was the end of day 1... not so bad yet...
On to day 2... We hung out again and she was pretty distant most of the day. I tried to talk to her and honestly it just seemed like she didn't care what I had to say. So we were walking around and went to a restaurant. I told her straight-up there that I could tell something was bothering her and what it was. She told me that when she told me about her possibly going to war, she didn't like how it seemed like I wasn't supporting her. That her career was first and that's how it's going to be. I told her that it's not what I meant and that I am supporting her fully through this. Then she told me that actions speak louder than words and we'd leave it at that. We didn't really talk for much of the rest of the night because I could tell she really wasn't listening to me anyway. So we sat there silently for awhile. Let's just say I didn't want to talk and be ignored. When I was alone with her mom, I told her how stressed out it was making me. I almost started crying on the way home. She doesn't realize how much I love and respect her. When she was leaving at night to go back to her barracks, I told her I loved her and she kind of stopped before saying it. She mumbled out "I love you guys too"...
Then day 3, the worst day yet... it was as quiet and awkward as ever. I tried to talk to her alone about everything, but she didn't want to hear it and took it as me being a * * * * . It was the same old BS from her. Anytime I'd even say anything she'd come back with a smart remark towards me. I was completely shut out all day as she talked to her mom. Then at the end of the day, she asked me if she wouldn't mind me just skipping our plans tomorrow so she can have some one-on-one time with her mom. I was like whatever. Then she called her mom later on and told her that I brought all of this upon myself. I'm so tired of this BS.
Supposedly, her mom is going to try to get her to call me on the phone before we leave to say goodbye. But what the hell can I really say? I didn't do anything at all wrong here in my eyes. Sure, I was quiet most of the time, but that's only because she wasn't listening to me. I'm not an idiot. I know when people don't care what you have to say. Should I just be civil on the phone? I'm pretty sure our relationship is over, but I don't want our whole friendship or anything to end.. Maybe just saying something like I don't know what happened between us, but I want the best for you and hope everything goes well. You'll do great... or something alone those lines?
I'm just so confused. I invested so much time and energy into getting the money for this trip to come see her, and she treated me like dirt over ONE comment that she took the wrong way. She refuses to admit that she did take it that way either. Any help?
