GF Broke up with me and I want her back is there hope?
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My girlfriend broke up with me. Been togther for almost 2 years. The first year was great and all good. Then it started to go down hill and I wasn't around enough. I live about 25 miles away and I never went to her place she awalys came out here. I missed her parents 25th aniveresrey dinner. And I just wasn't around when she needed me in general. I had previous tragedys that had me keep a wall up and we didn't talk about the important stuff much. Truth is I guess I didn't know what I lost until it was gone. She first said she needed space, but then I convinced her to give me some time and I would come around. Well 2 weeks into it it was great and I was there but her spark for me was gone. She broke up with me. The next day I tried everything and threw the bag at it and won. But the next day (tue), she said she couldn't do it and it wouldn't work. After I let her in on my previous deals, she wanted me to see a counsler. I asked if she would go and she said yes. I then asked her to go out to dinner with me so we could talk since the last time she broke up with me was over the phone. In the meantime I contacted her friends and family trying to convince them I was the one for her. And I could change. All this did was make her mad. We did go to the dinner and she said it did feel awkward. She told me she has moved on but I don't believe it. She said I need to move on and we can just be friends. I told her I was going to change and she believes me, just doesn't want any part of a relationship right now. I asked her what about in the future when she see's I have changed, all she said is that she couldn't answer that quiestion but made it clear for me not to hold on to that hope.. But she never said it wouldn't happen, she just didn't answer. I wrote her about 15 page letters about how much I loved her and how things would change, even wrote her some poetry. She said she would read it and let me know but then I get a instant message from her and she says she started it but didn't finish and couldn't read it right now.? Then I hear from a friend that she said it was great to see me at dinner and hang out and that I looked really good (droped about 35lbs since the breakup 11days previous), and that she does miss me. But made it clear to not let it get back to me. So I honestly feel there is some hope. Then she invites me to the rock in bowl this weekend but its with a bunch of our friends. So needless to say I am all mixed up here. I am going to change for myself to be a better person and be able to open up but I want her back like its no bodys business... I would do anything. Is the fact that she still wants to be friends good? She said we could hang out in groups but not togther alone for a while... I understand that though I guess... but We have talked pretty much everyday since the breakup, in one way or another. Mostly I have called her or she has called me. Or we have hit each other up on instant messager. I guess I am just lost, I want to hold onto hope because of the signs I get from things but I guess I just don't know. Do you think I can win her back? Think its Possible? She isn't the type that will just run out and get a boyfriend right away, so I guess that's a plus. She isn't a big partier or bar type so that's a plus I guess. I just don't know... anyone have some real advice? I know in her past relationships she has gotten back with her ex before. And In my past my ex came back to me and I didn't even do anything... guess I am just lost. Please help... TBK:( :confused: :confused: :(