I'm trying to find out about men who left their long term marriage for another woman. Did you have any regrets? What did you do about it? How did it work out.

I can't answer from personal experience. I have a friend that has cheated on his wife. He felt trapped. Married is not for everyone and clearly it was not for him. But when people get into relationship there are certain expectations that have to be met. Getting married was one of those things he did to keep the peace in the relationship.
However, in his heart he didn't want to settle down. So before the marriage and during the married he was sleeping with other women. Finally, he decided that it was not worth it to continue claiming that he was married and left. The only thing he regretted was getting married in the first place.
This is only story of one person who is a selfish bastard. Women love him for some reason or another. There are plenty of husbands that leave there wives and realizes that it was the worse mistake.

It's a mixed bag hope this helped.

My long term husband had an affair for 2 years until I found out and chucked him out now he lives with her while pretending not to. Why?
He made it clear he did'nt want me. I don't understand why he still feels the need to lie to me I'm done with him. I think he thinks I still want him.
Anyway he has moved in with his new family, she has a 6 year old and is 10 years younger, and fazing out his old family, 2 kids 22 and 18.
How long will his relationship last? Is it forever?

Who knows?

But the thing is, if he thought that it would work, why not get a divorce and live with her? He stayed with you because you could provide something she couldn't...

Regardless, there's a chance that it could work... but something tells me that it won't.

My long term husband (26 years) flaunted his success at a younger woman who worked in the gambling club he frequented. He left me for her when I found out about their two year affair. They have now been living together for four months. His mother recons the relationship won't last. What do you think?

Why? Do you want him back?

Not today.

Probably better off without him.

I recon, that you should not care if his relationship with this girl lasts or not, you file for divorce, take him for what you can, and move on with your life.

Yeah your right but is so hard.

Not for him...

No not for him and are you speaking from experience?

You need to protect yourself financially. If the two of you are able to work things out later, GREAT... but why let your future be put into jeopardy while he is out playing. Don't gamble on the possibilities.

I'm speaking from experience. Dump him. Divorce him and move on. Who wants someone who acts so horribly?

They've been together 2.5 years and carried on an affair behind your back. Sounds like it's lasting to me.

Yep, my experience was that I gambled that my ex would come back to me if I didn't upset her... she ended up with everything... I got to sort through the trash she didn't want in the house to start my life over... and despite that, I still have a hard time not wanting it to be over... She obviously didn't have same feelings... and I just have to go with the fact it is over.

I have the wheels in motion. I have some very NICE SURPRICES lined up for him. He's about to find out just how stupid I really am. Nothing personal, just protecting my kids inheritance. My husbands the gambler not me.

Good for you!!

If you want to share, feel free... I also understand if you'd rather not! I was just thinking that it might be nice to hear when someone gets what they deserve... but other people might give you a hard time if they have other opinions... never know how people will take things...

Ahh I love the 'stupid' outsmart him move! :D

If you want help on any ideas I may be able to think some good ones up!

Oooooooo! Glad I'm not him! Bad enough having one person think of things... an army would just be mind boggling!

You know what, even if it does not last. You are better off without. You need to focus on what is more important. Your health, Mental state, children. 26 years is a long marriage. It is sad that it ended the way it has. It seems to me that you're a very strong person and that your willing to stand up for yourself. This is very good.