Ask Me Help Desk - Should she take him back

OK my friend angela used to date this guy, they dated for about 6months. Then it came out that angel had sex with one of his bestfriends before they got together. Well to get back at her the guy went out an had sex with 3 girls he said it was "to make up for her lying all this time". He also went out an told everybody that she was a slut. Needless to say they broke up
Well like 2 weeks later he said he loved her an wanted her back but he had to wait until he was truly over it. So things started OK he called an they still had sex regularly but he wouldn't kiss her or be seen with her in front of his friends. Over time he stopped calling an about 3months has passed
Now today he is texting her saying her wants her back. So my friend angela wants to know if she should get back with him or not.
Personally I told her no because he treated her like hell when they where on that so called break screwing every girl he could while telling her is she touched another guy he wouldn't speak to her anymore. But she wants more opinions

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Originally Posted by CSW6314

ok my friend angela used to date this guy, they dated for about 6months. then it came out that angel had sex with one of his bestfriends before they got together. well to get back at her the guy went out an had sex with 3 girls he said it was "to make up for her lying all this time". he also went out an told everybody that she was a slut. needless to say they broke up
well like 2 weeks later he said he loved her an wanted her back but he had to wait until he was truly over it. so things started out ok he called an they still had sex regularly but he wouldnt kiss her or be seen with her in front of his friends. over time he stopped calling an about 3months has passed
now today he is texting her saying her wants her back. so my friend angela wants to know if she should get back with him or not.
personally i told her no because he treated her like hell when they where on that so called break screwing every girl he could while telling her is she touched another guy he wouldnt speak to her anymore. but she wants more opinions

No absolutely not, Tell her to turn the volume up on her intuition and let him go, he is too indecisive.. it seems to me he wants a sexual relationship, if he breaks up with her again than it will be her own fault... I would leave this guy alone, and don't look back... In the end ultimately she has to make her own decision, but she needs to be careful with this one... I DEF say NO NO NO!

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Originally Posted by CSW6314

ok my friend angela used to date this guy, they dated for about 6months. then it came out that angel had sex with one of his bestfriends before they got together. well to get back at her the guy went out an had sex with 3 girls he said it was "to make up for her lying all this time". he also went out an told everybody that she was a slut. needless to say they broke up
well like 2 weeks later he said he loved her an wanted her back but he had to wait until he was truly over it. so things started out ok he called an they still had sex regularly but he wouldnt kiss her or be seen with her in front of his friends. over time he stopped calling an about 3months has passed
now today he is texting her saying her wants her back. so my friend angela wants to know if she should get back with him or not.
personally i told her no because he treated her like hell when they where on that so called break screwing every girl he could while telling her is she touched another guy he wouldnt speak to her anymore. but she wants more opinions

No NO NOOOOOO!!

I don't even see how she would even consider getting back together with this guy! He slept with three girls to get back at her for something she did before she met him! He told people she was a slut! He wouldn't kiss her and wouldn't be in public with her after they got back together with her the last time! It sounds like he's just looking for a lay in between girlfriends! Your friend needs to have more self respect and tell this guy to "F" off!! Nobody deserves to be treated that way.

I would NEVER in a million years go back with him.
He is the type of guy that when told something because you need it off your chest or you need encouraging or whatever they twist it to their convoluted advantage and turn it against you like a knife in the chest!
If he really cared and really wanted to be will her he would have chalked it up to the past and got over it.
Then he gets back with her JUST to sleep with her at his convenience and nobody else is to know?
She needs someone that is going to be in HER corner and treat her like they are proud to have her for a girlfriend.
If she goes back with him who is to say he isn't just trying to hurt her some more and then leave again?

RED FLAGS:
Double standards
Twisting to his advantage
Playing games
AT his convenience he wants her but he has to get over things and then he doesn't want her
Then he wants her -only on his terms and conditions--- I can... but you can't...

... just to name some red flags...

And it only gets worse from here!

See the problem is the guy keeps trowing out the "L" word at her an telling her the reason he found another girlfriend is because she stopped calling him. His most recent ex called her saying that she knew he wasn't over my friend because of some messages she found in his phone and I think that's why she's starting to consider giving him a chance

Tell her no way after the way he has treated her and he would not even kiss her he is using her

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Originally Posted by CSW6314

see the problem is the guy keeps trowing out the "L" word at her an telling her the reason he found another girlfriend is because she stopped calling him. his most recent ex called her saying that she knew he wasnt over my friend because of some messages she found in his phone and i think thats why shes starting to consider giving him a chance

Yeah guys will say whatever it takes to get what they want that doesn't mean he means it.
It could simply means he wants to play some more games.
Words are a dime a dozen.