Ask Me Help Desk - Boyfriend may be gay?

I have been dating this guy for more than 2 years and he told me about 1 year into our realationship that he had been sexually molested by his bigger brother when he was younger. It was a huge deal when he told me and there were a lot of tears and such. He said that it happened quite often from the years of 9 to about 14 years old. I am really worried about him because now he likes it in the butt just like he got when he was younger. It scares me because I love him so much. I just wonder if he is bi-sexual or if this is normal. He also tries pressuring me to take it up the butt but I do not enjoy it because of what he has explained to me. He goes as far as going to adult videos and buying dildos and such for himself. Should I seriously be worried or not?

It all depends, if its too much to accept then you should re-evaluate this relationship. Only he knows what he is, and if its beyond you, let him know how you feel.

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Originally Posted by foxgirl

i have been dating this guy for more than 2 years and he told me about 1 year into our realationship that he had been sexually molested by his bigger brother when he was younger. it was a huge deal when he told me and there were a lot of tears and such. He said that it happend quite often from the years of 9 to about 14 years old. I am really worried about him because now he likes it in the butt just like he got when he was younger. it scares me because i love him so much. i just wonder if he is bi-sexual or if this is normal. he also tries pressuring me to take it up the butt but i do not enjoy it because of what he has explained to me. he goes as far as going to adult videos and buying dildos and such for himself. should i seriously be worried or not?

I know this may sound weird, but in actuality anal stimulation for males make them have a better orgasm, I know it sounds "disguisting" for the unexperience mind but there is a gland, and when things are inserted into the anus it milks the prostate gland which makes them achieve an ultimate orgasm... However about his prior experience I hope he has sought counseling for that, and as for as you making assumptions about his sexual preference you need to talk to him... I mean Some people like different things.. just don't make assumptions...