My girlfriend says that she doesn't have a g spot I have been with her for years and she has not orgasmed once during sex. How do I find the g spot? While fingering her I haven't felt it. She does have orgasms from clitorial sensatino. Am I doingsomething wrong? Or is there something I can to help.

This is very common--saying she doesn't have one is like saying she doesn't have fingers. All women have a g spot but locating it is very hard. I would do some reading and research and if you can't get her to come that way don't worry--it's totally normal.

I don't have a g-spot either. I file g-spot under urban legend.


[Now, folks, don't go to pieces over my comment. :D]

Well, technically, she does have a "g spot"... anatomically, at least. Her response to sensations there might be futile, however.

The "g spot" is really just another part of the cl!toral structure tied into urethral protective tissue. We focus so much on the glans of the cl!toris.. the infamous "love button"... and for good reason, since it's the most innervated region of the body, twice as much as the penis. And its role in getting to orgasm is not small for most women.

But the clitoris also extends throughout the structure of the vulva... reaching first up toward the mon pubis (the mound of tissue that covers the pubic bone) and then splits into "legs" that travel down the sides, following the labia minora. The famed g spot is internally lower than the clitorial glans... that spongy region you are feeling for internally, which is the corpus spongiosum. This tissue essentially engorges with blood during sex to protect the urethra from friction, and some think that the roots of the cl!toris can cross through this region, or through the urethral sponge "above" it. This region though is much less innervated than the glans of the cl!toral structure.

This region and this tissue should be present. But, as stated, her response to stim here might be strong, or not. I've dated two women who were well stim by the "g spot", either with fingers or through intercourse. I've also dated women who didn't get off simply with "g spot" stimulation... needing the glans of the cl!toris to be stimulated for orgasm.

So... yes, she has the anatomical structure. And yes, she might not be particularly responsive to stim solely to this region. Doesn't mean anything is "wrong" with her or that you are doing something wrong.

If she can't get off herself with self stim of this spot, then its likely you won't either.

*forgot to mention... one girl actually disliked only stim at this spot... complained about the "need to urinate" sensation... so in her case, innervation was there, but not interpreted as pleasing. Likewise I dated a woman who loved strong cl!toral stim, and then right after dated a woman who hated really strong cl!toral "thrashing" (as most have)... so one girl interpreted the sensations and pleasing, and for others too much was too much. Just another tie-in to how having the physical structure doesn't mean sensations are interpreted the same, woman to woman.*

It took me years to have that spot found... I was totally relaxed while having oral stimulation, and hand... It really surprised me and my partner thought"he broke something"... well he really did break the seal so so speak... I've never been the same since... Tell her to relax... and enjoy her self... maybe that will help!