Ok well I've been out with this girl twice now, the first time on valentines day and the second time the day after (I did because she asked if I wanted to so it's not like I forced her to). Well I thought things were going great between us, good conversation, she kept laughing at pretty much everything I said, no awkward moments. It was like this both days we saw each other. Then like two days later she's saying like she has a problem with when she starts to get close with someone and starts to like them she does whatever she can to prevent it from getting into anything more serious. So basically she's like telling me it weirded her out to get close with someone I think?

So my question is should I just forget about her?

Sounds like an excuse to me. She might have enjoyed hanging out with you as a friend but doesn't want anything other than friendship. Maybe this is her way of scaring you off so that you won't want a relationship with her and she doesn't have to tell you how she really feels. Just my interpretation, my opinion, not fact.

It could be an excuse but maybe she really is hesitant because she is afraid of getting hurt. Most likely the last person did that to her so she is being extra careful. I HATE people like that because it's really hard to connect with them since I am the exact opposite. But just be sure that it has nothing to do with YOU...

First off, stop typing like so much except when you are actually in fact saying she "likes" you.

Second, I'm the same way. I push a guy away at first. If he sticks around I know he's really and truly into me. I tend to sabotage and look for things to go wrong so he'll just break up with me.

But on the other hand, it could be an excuse. Either that, or she really does like you. You got to give her three chances. Three strikes and she's out. You can try phone calls and trying to take her out again. If she rejects the idea 3 times, she doesn't like you and move on.

Like.

You have gone out with her twice. Whether she means what she says or not, the main point of what she is saying is, "I don't think this is going to work"
Move on.

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Originally Posted by chelseata

first off, stop typing like so much except when you are actually in fact saying she "likes" you.

second, i'm the same way. i push a guy away at first. if he sticks around i know he's really and truly into me. i tend to sabotage and look for things to go wrong so he'll just break up with me.

but on the other hand, it could be an excuse. either that, or she really does like you. you gotta give her three chances. three strikes and she's out. you can try phone calls and trying to take her out again. if she rejects the idea 3 times, she doesn't like you and move on.

like.

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Ha didn't realize that I was saying like so much until I read it over again. Hm well the weird thing is before she told me she pushes people away I asked her if she wanted to do something later this week and she said yeah sure and gave me days she could hang out. The reason she said she doesn't let things get serious is that there is someone who keeps telling her that he loves her and it gets her confused(even though they never met in person but they talked a lot), causing her to break up with whoever she's with. So I guess that's probably the main reason or maybe she just doesn't like me?

Yes. She is not worth your time, especially if you've both been out twice in two days. There are better people out there who you can stay with longer and who doesn't try and get to 'serious' with others they meet. >>>>> Maybe she's saying that it's over between you both without actually saying so? <<<<< That's just my question

Something about a mysterious person who is sending her those "love" messages that get her all confused... why would she worry about some guy she's never met in person... just seems a little odd if she's willing to let that interfere with getting to know you... She might need some time to mature as well as some advice about internet romance... etc... especially safety and fantasy worlds... or it might just be an excuse to keep some distance between you??

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Originally Posted by JerseyGuy

Ok well I've been out with this girl twice now, the first time on valentines day and the second time the day after (I did because she asked if i wanted to so it's not like i forced her to). Well I thought things were going great between us, good conversation, she kept laughing at pretty much everything I said, no awkward moments. It was like this both days we saw each other. Then like two days later she's saying like she has a problem with when she starts to get close with someone and starts to like them she does whatever she can to prevent it from getting into anything more serious. So basically she's like telling me it weirded her out to get close with someone i think?

So my question is should i just forget about her?

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She could have had a problem when she was younger that made her not want to get close to the opposite sex and she is pushing you away so she won't get hurt/ I know from experience. I started going out with the guy freshmen year and when we got to close I broke up with him over something stupid or I would start a fight just so we would break up he was persistent but not pushy or demanding he tried to make it up to me and we would start going back out after being close friends for a while 8 1/2 yrs later we are married still in love and have children. I sugest yo you try to understand her and if she wants to be friends in order to get comfortable with you do it, she might just have a comfort problem. Good luck

All right thanks for the help everyone, I have a better idea on things now.