My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. He's from Ohio where I'm from, but is now living in Louisiana. He and I see each other only two to three times a year. When he comes home to visit we have sex, but I never get off. I tell him and he doesn't understand, I don't get off from penetration. He will give me oral on occasion, but on occasion isn't enough. What should I do?

You are probably expecting too much. Being in a relationship for only a year, and seeing him only three times in that year, plus having sex three times is not a good indication of what a decent sexual relationship is.

Seeing as he only visits you from a distance, he probably has the 'slambamthankumam' (do the two of you ever see any other room in your apartment when he visits), mentality and doesn't really care all that much about how he comes off. I know, I read your other post.

You should just count your losses and find yourself a decent bloke closer to home who you can see on a regular basis and get to know properly, then maybe you can have a decent relationship.

Long distance relationships -------> are not where it's at!!

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Good Luck -- You really need it

If he won't give you yours----don't give him his.

Betcha he understands THEN.

2 or 3 visits in a year. Is not really a relationship. How can you develop a sexual relationship or anykind of relationship when your never seeing each other.

It takes practise and time well spent with a partner to get to know each other, or even to relax. You my dear probably know your not going to see each other again for a long time and that makes you tense enough.

So it is probably time to think about what kind of relationship do you truly want. Somebody that you can spend more time and become closer together in many ways or continue the way you are now.

It is obvious your not happy with this situation, Can you change this?

You don't even know him. Most women have to have a trust factor going for them in order to orgasm, not just feel like they are being used for sex.

Basically, he is a stranger.