While for most of you this is quite elementary, but for myself who is just getting back into the dating world (after a 4 year relationship) its slightly confusing to me :) This past weekend while out with some friends after class I met a girl and proceeeded to spend some of the night dancing with her and having a couple drinks, I could tell from the first moment she was interested (as she made her friend come up to me first lol) and at the end of the night she was explainign how I 'HAD' to call her and hang out. The question now is, when and how do I call without appearing as too overbearing or more importantly desperate. On the night we met I was relatively unconcerned with what she thought about me and was able to crack jokes on her, etc... then when time came my boys needed to leave (as I was the ride) I just walked away saying I had to go and was too busy to stay later and I think this helped increase the attraction greatly. However now I need some help or some ideas on how to call her and keep this mystery about me up, that I'm not dying for her approval, to get to where she is willing to hang out again and not looking at this weekend as one night of fun, thanks everyone!

:o If you really don't want to seem too desperate never call the next day or the day after that. You said that you met her over the weekend? Than I would wait until at least this coming Thursday or Friday to call her, that leaves enough time in between where you won't appear to anxious.
If you have to end up leaving a message when you call her, make it short. Say something like. "Hey ***this is *** we met at ** just calling to say I had a good time that night and see if you want to hang out again. You can change the words obviously but you get the point. If she does pick up the phone, have anice conversation with her. Sometimes getting to know someone out at abar is abit more difficult than it is on the phone. If the conversation goes really well then ask her out. Sometimes its really hard to keep up a mysterious but do what you feel. If you dig her and she to you then just leave it open. Say something like "Hey if your not doing anything this weekend, why not come down to the bar and we'll hang out." That's pretty much letting you know you have an interest without being really obvious. Its been a while since I have been out of the dating game so I really hope this advice doesn't sound cheesy.

"then when time came my boys needed to leave (as I was the ride) I just walked away saying I had to go and was too busy to stay later and I think this helped increase the attraction greatly." - that's so key and important. That helps so much - that you can walk away. Leaves mystery. You weren't neede or desperate - you weren't like all the other guys freaking out that you might not see her again.

Call her Wednesday. Perferct day of the week. Make sure to be light and funny - remember ANYTHINg from that night was funny that and ANYTHING that was interesting.

Tell her you're going for coffe or a drink Thursday night. Ask if you wants to hang ut with you.

Keep the call short -don't give away too much info. END THE CALL FIRST!!

Check out the sites for more dating info:

www.askmen.com - read ALL the dating articles - read Doc Love - he's harsh, but he tells the truth.

www.sosuave.com

www.lovetactics.com

I highly recommend David Deangelo at www.doubleyordating.com - he knows about today's modern relationships.