Hi, I'm 27 year old female who is almost 2 years married. My husband and I are really unhappy with each other and have been for a long time. We have gone through shouting and swearing etc and now we just don't speak at all. We are working in a different country from our families. I know in my heart that there is no love between us. We hate each other and Im scared and worried about telling my parents who firmly believe in marriage etc. It sounds disgraceful, not been even two years`married but we have no respect for each other at all. My folks paid for our wedding and they hold the sacrament dearly. It will break their hearts. I know there is no easy way. Im just wondering has anyone been in a similar situation and if so, what was the outcome? Ive been in this situation before but was too chicken to tell my family but now I feel that enough is enough.
Thx.xx

If breaking up is inevitable, then so is telling your parents. Its sad that they invested in your marriage, and it never worked out. But unless they have been living in a box, they shouldn't be too shocked. Its one of those things that is just really hard to do but has to be done. The out come should be that they are your parents and obviously they will love you just the same, just give them time to adjust. I'm sure they don't want you to be unhappy either.

I don't know if my parents have any idea because we live apart but I think you are right. They do want me to be happy. I just feel bad because I am brining failure to the family.

Failure would be to stay with someone you don't love.

Greg Quinn already said what I thought to say :) very wise!

Be strong and let your parent know what you are feeling and what has been happening in your marriage that has brought you to this point. They will only want the best for you.

Don't look at it as failure, or place blame on either of your, because sometimes we don't know that we are not compatible with the person we marry until after the wedding, (if you don't live together first) and I think because you both are away from your family's this would make it harder.

Most parents love their children unconditionally and will support and stand by the decisions adult children make.