My son is having a relationship with his supervisor at work. He is 17 and she is 22. Can anyone tell me the parameters around that?
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My son is having a relationship with his supervisor at work. He is 17 and she is 22. Can anyone tell me the parameters around that?
The hr department may fire her, contact them. But you would probably have to have proof. Also depending on what state your in, the police may get involved if you report her to them.
I doubt there is anything illegal. Most states in US allow consent at 16 and otherss at 17. A couple may be older but without knowing your state that is hard to tell.
You can report this to her boss at work and see if they have any company rule about it, That is about it.
Of course as the parent, you can make him quit the job, also.
Seems harsh to go to such serious lengths over a seemingly harmless relationship. I mean 22 and 17 is not that big of a deal to invlove police and get this young girl fired or interfere with her career. Her being the older of the two of them, the onus would be on her to perhaps act more professionally, however, she is only 22, we all make mistakes.
If you put things into persective perhaps you will see there are a lot worse things this day and age that your son could be doing. If it bothers you I'd say speak to your son and voice your concerns before taking any drastic action.
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Originally Posted by Elizabeth_M_Adams
No, same as if the ages were reversed - not a legal problem.
Have you tried talking to your son? I think at 17 you still have SOME control over him (and the relationship).
I think getting the Police involved, causing her to lose her job could backfire and bring them closer together instead of driving them apart.
What is the relationship? Is it sexual? Do you know for sure?
Mostly it depends on what state your in. He is in fact a minor at 17. A lot of states that have age of consent also carry a 2 year rule. If they persons involved are willing participants and within 2 years age then there can be consent. There are any number of charges that could go against her as the " adult " .
Ask a lawyer about where the legal end lies for your state.
You could take a more pragmatic approach instead of ra egulatorian one. He's almost 18, and may be mature for his age, you don't mention. He's at the point where you two really need to be able to talk calmly over coffee about things like this.
How about just inviting the girl/woman over and talking to them about their relationship, like grownups, without all the melodrama? Be sincerely interested in how they are with each other. You're the parent, so she should be at least able to appreciate your concern, as long as you don't start screaming and accusing. Be a student of their intentions and be prepared to really listen.
It may really be harmless and lovely.
Then again, it may become clear in the same evening that it's pretty creepy. I supposed you have to able to tell them that at the end of it all... again without the screaming and accusing. Just the facts, ma'am.
I am sorry but myself as a 19 year old man have learnt a great many things now I don't mean to sound like a know it all but all I have to say is that this can have serious repercussions on a young man everyone thinks that good for him he gets some but just as well he doesn't understand what he is getting himself into and beautiful as relationships can become the can also become disastrous through mental stability, to schooling, and many other things if she respected him she would wait till he is out of high school and then if he was still willing for the relationship then fine but this can have serious repercussions in this young mans life.Quote:
Originally Posted by BMI
Sorry to take away from your question but if I knew your state then I could tell you the laws associated with this but in most cases Fr_Chuck is correct.
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