I was engaged to someone but I didn't want to continue with him.he's divorced and has children. The problem is that I lost my virginity with him ( he forced me ) to oblige me to marry him.Now he refuses to let me continue my life . He spy me all the time and thret me to tell anyone who wants to marry me that I am not virgin. VERGINITY IS VERY IMPORTANT IN MY SOCIETY. Now , there is a suitable man who I like , he wants to marry me. What shall I do ? Shall I tell him every thing about the other one or just be qiet ? And what shall I do with the other one who is still threatening me?? PLEASE INEED HELP

You should call the police and have him arrested. Are you in the USA? What society do you live in?

If he forced you this was considered rape. You should call the police if he is threatening you. Also you shoud tell your new man what happened if he truly loves you he will understand.

That man sounds creepy! I would pull a restraining order on the dude. I would also tell your future hubby, he needs to know. Sit him down and explain it to him. """"""""""If he truly loves you he will will understand!!""""""""

I think you should not let your future husband know about all this unless and until you yourself can control the problem. If in any case you think that he comes to know about it form out side then you should go and tell about all this to him.