Originally Posted by talaniman
Patients is a virtue we all could learn from, and need from time to time. Sometimes all we can See is whats in front of us, and forget to look ahead, and see what we do now has effects on tomorrow. Obviously the two of you have talked enough to get some things done, and its a matter of time before, you grow more, and learn how to better communicate. In time you will look back and laugh, and realise, its the hard times that have made you grow, as your relationship passes the test of time, its one big learning curve, and none of us is perfect. Just stay willing to work together, and compromise, and set aside some time for the two of you, on a regular basis. It doesn't have to be fancy, or expensive, just intimate and personal. Coping with stress is a skill that develops with time, and maturity, so just know it gets better. I had to learn to let my wife handle certain things, and step back, and shut-up, while she worked her magic, her way.(not easy, for a stubborn guy like me) So go easy Mrs. Stubborn, sometimes we have to step back, and say NOTHING, as nothing is ever exactly how we want it, and then let some things go, until a better time. Lack of money is a high stress with young couples, (and old) and finances can destroy a relationship, no doubt, your priorities may be different than his, that's where the honest CALM, communications come in, and a willingness to work together, to solve your problems, for the benefit of both of you, will see you thru even the hardest of times. Good luck quitting the smoking as the benefits will be seen a lot later and worth the hell your going thru now. Be good to each other, and long life together.