I last ovulated from January 4th to the 9th. And on Saturday January 7th, I gave my boyfriend a handjob. We cleaned it up with a sock, and he did too, then fingered me. I for some reason I seem to think he had some of his sperm on his hands when doing so. I might just be paranoid that a little got on his hands when cleaning himself, but I don't know. About a week after this happened I had spot bleeding for just a night, and began to panic. Ive also had stress headaches on my eyes. Could I be pregnant? Please leave all comments and concerns! Thank you.:)

Here is the basic golden rule: when in doubt, see your doctor!

Second, you should be close enough with your mother to be able to trust her and ask her question of this nature, as she's been there too and probably would be very proud to have her daughter come to her with concerns as personal as this.

Third, There are some sites that you can check out until your doctor's visit that will benefit you and your b/f as more education from the right place is better than off the street or none at all.

No matter the outcome, I wish you lots of luck and a very healthy future!

http://www.sextutor.com/masturbation_female.shtml

http://www.teenwire.com/ask/2004/as-...p925-sperm.php

http://www.quikcondoms.com/question.jsp?id=5

www.askdramy.com The U.K. online doctor.you can post on a forum, or 'ask the Dr. Amy' with a click. The FAQ Tab on the homepage is also a good place to click and has a lot of good subject matter. P.S. Most of the articles are printable in PDF format.

Also including a document that I feel needs to be more widely read by all youth for safety and hope that you will share it as much as you can with your peers.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gifP.S. There is also a hand disinfectant that you can carry in your purse for your hands if there is no soap and water around, try that sometime.

Thank you very much for your repley. =) I will take those sites and going to my Doctor into conisderation. I am not too close with mom with this sort of deal because she doesn't think I'm doing these sort of things, and if she found out I did, I don't think it would help much. My family is incredibly strict so it's hard to talk to someone about this.

Dear, all kids think that way about their parents, until they give them a chance to think back and remember what they feared too. You can print this post out and just lay it down somewhere for them to see - But rest assured, any parent worth their salt, will love and support their children, no matter what - just give them the opportunity.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/images/icons/icon4.gif What Parents Should Remember And Pass On To Their Teens!
Hi everyone. I just found this super article for you who want to help your teens learn a healthy way about sex. Please pass this on to your fellow parents, because this is such an ongoing and important issue that it is noteworthy.
Copy and paste it to Notepad and print it. It will refresh your memories about all the questions you had while growing up and being in the same situation they are in now. Only - now there are more risks for them and their potential partners and therefore very important for all.

You're kids will grow up with or without your help, and need your support in order to grow up healthy and live longer!

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from iVillage - an online magazine to subscribe to Talking about Sex: 10 Bases to Cover by The Roller-Coaster Moms

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The news is good: According to a recent report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the percentage of sexually active U.S. high school students has declined over the past 10 years, as have certain risky sexual behaviors. Talking to your teen openly and honestly about sex, being sure to cover everything from oral sex to STDs, is one way to ensure your child's health and well-being. Here's how:

1. Admit that sexuality is positive. (Perhaps the hardest thing to admit to a child on the brink of lust and love.) If you cast sex as negative, as in "Don't do it!" then your child will simply tune you out.

2. Don't give boys short shrift. Broaching sexuality is easier with girls, because you can start with menstruation. With boys, talking about wet dreams and ejaculation is far more disquieting. It's hardly surprising then, that surveys show girls get far more information about their bodies and sexual urges than boys.

3. Define sexual behavior as a romantic progression. Explain that sexual attraction begins with a smile and proceeds along a path from kissing, to touching and onto intercourse. Remember first base (kissing), second base (petting above the waist), third base (petting below the waist)? Ask if kids still use this home run lingo. A step-by-step approach ensures that a child can stop at any time. Make that point.

4. Girls and boys require different instructions. Take the issue of consent, for example. Girls need to learn to say no firmly looking a boy straight in the face.
Sometimes girls look away or say nothing; this can be misinterpreted by a boy who continues making sexual advances. Boys need to be warned of the danger of assuming consent. He may be liable for charges of date rape or sexual abuse.

5. Listen carefully to your child's comments. Each generation has different sexual expressions and values. Think back to the 60s or 70s. Remember your parents' take on free love? Begin to learn today's lingo and norms. Then you know where to start.

6. Clarify the danger of oral sex. In today's culture, oral sex is considered casual and convenient. Raised in the shadow of AIDS, our children seize upon oral sex, thinking its safe sex and, technically, doesn't undo virginity. Explain that any exchange of bodily fluid can result in STDs or HIV. Define abstinence.

7. Offer a checklist for sexual decision-making. How does someone decide it's right to have sexual intercourse? Discuss typical reasons. Love. Boyfriend or girlfriend pressure. Pressure from peers. Lower inhibitions after drinking or using drugs. Here is where you inject your values - - when and why one would take this step.

8. Link sex to emotional consequences. Sex is a physical drive, but with emotional connections. Put sex in a loving context. Explain how it bonds people deeply. Once sex happens people are more vulnerable. Broken hearts hurt more. Reputations get juicier. Regrets happen.

9. No parent gets off the hook. Mothers and fathers each bring important perspectives to sex talks. Boys need to hear from their fathers about what is appropriate and what's not. Only mothers can demystify women to their
sons; only dads can explain men to their daughters.

10. Take advantage of all the help you can get. TV, movies, magazine articles, newspaper stories -- all provide teachable moments.
Use everyday opportunities to comment and listen to opinions from your young adolescent. The sex talk is an ongoing educational conversation. Finally, remember having sex is not a punishable offense.

If you need more information, try Parenting 911: How Parents Can Safeguard and Rescue 10- to 15-Year-Olds from Substance Abuse, Depression, Sexual Encounters, Violence, Failure in School, Danger on the Internet, and Other Risky Situations.

Book Description
For the 20 million parents of 10- to 15-year-olds, The Roller-Coaster Years is a lively guide to mastering the ups and downs of early adolescence. Every parent knows about the terrible twos and the brooding teens, but few have anticipated the wild ride of these magical yet maddening years

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You can't lock up your children for 20 or more years - and don't let them learn the wrong way in the street.

I really apprechiate all that, and that my parents should trust and be able to talk with me, but it isn't like that. She wouldn't let me out of the house let alone ever see my boyfriend again if I told her anything along these lines... So I'm putting of telling her unless my period doesn't come and tests prove. I know parents should be able to talk to their parents, but in this case, its slightly different, trust me.

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Originally Posted by dasani

I really apprechiate all that, and that my parents should trust and be able to talk with me, but it isnt like that. She wouldnt let me out of the house let alone ever see my boyfriend again if I told her anything along these lines...So I'm putting of telling her unless my period doesnt come and tests prove. I know parents should be able to talk to their parents, but in this case, its slightly different, trust me.

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That's your choice, and you know them better than I do. Wish you lots of luck. Keep this post in mind just in case you do need it though.

Remember that we are here 24/7 and please keep us posted.

Thank you! =).
Ill keep you posted. And once again, your websites were so helpful, and it's comforting to hear all your advice.