I was friends with this guy and then we started dating. I knew he had been dating another girl but he supposedly had dumped her and started dating me. 3 months later he went on a trip with a group of friends and he cheated on me with the girl he had been dating before me. We became "friends" again, but he started drifting and now he's gotten serious with this girl. I really can't stand seeing them together but he insists it is immature of me if we stop being friends, because 5 months have already gone by and because he really loves me as a friend. What should I do?

I don't think you should remain friends for now, once he dumps this girl or cheats on her maybe take him back as a friend only.

It really isn't immature of you not to be able to be friends with an ex that cheated. It's the simple fact that you still have feeling for this guy. I have been there to and all I can say is don't be friends for the mean time. Once you start healing and you start finding someone else then you can be friends because you have learned to move on.

Its something that some guys like they like to know that they still got there ex on hold and can do what they want and your still around. Some guys are like that

it nothing wrong... you still like him that why you feel uncomfertable when you see him and her together... the best thing you can do now is NC( no contract ) so you can have time for yourself to forget about him for a while

and then maybe later on you guys can be friend again > ^^

You don't give your age or where you know him from. If you're school age and see him every day, then you'll have to live with it for now. The same is true if you see him at work. You have to be nice. But that's all. You don't have to be "buddy".

If neither of the above is true, then you're desire to stay friends with someone you were once intimate with... well, that's you PLANNING for unhappiness. That's you courting him to "try for you" here and there, and whether you let him score or not, it will again be just temporary. Remember, you're accepting this ahead of time, you're welcoming it.

Do you HAVE to do that? Of course not. Respect yourself enough to decide your position on how much avoidable misery your going to allow in your life, then live with what you've decided.

Why would you want to be friends with a cheater? If you are hurt by his actions wouldn'tt it be better to let your heart heal before you attempted this. I Hope you don't remain in contact just to appease him.
Also the next guy that you decide that you like make sure he is not dating someone else. That should have been a warning that he was not b.f. material. Unless he was openly seeing both of you.

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Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

You don't give your age or where you know him from. If you're school age and see him every day, then you'll have to live with it for now. The same is true if you see him at work. You have to be nice. But that's all. You don't have to be "buddy".

If neither of the above is true, then you're desire to stay friends with someone you were once intimate with...well, that's you PLANNING for unhappiness. That's you courting him to "try for you" here and there, and whether you let him score or not, it will again be just temporary. Remember, you're accepting this ahead of time, you're welcoming it.

Do you HAVE to do that? Of course not. Respect yourself enough to decide your position on how much avoidable misery your going to allow in your life, then live with what you've decided.

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It's true! Give yourself space and befriend others if you want but don't get involved with others on the way. Medidate and do activities that can enrich your life. A cheater will eventually think of him/herself and their needs. Jelousy is common but will hurt you more if you continue to torture yourself... live your life and give back to others

He cheated on you and betrayed your trust. I wouldn't consider someone that would betray/intentionally hurt me a friend.:mad: