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Originally Posted by daydreamin1224
Let me just get this straight -
YOUR boyfriend has stayed and is staying/living with HIS girlfriend or wife - the mother of HIS child - for 4 years only because HE is worried about the welfare of the child. This is instead of actually going to Court to get custody and protect the child if any of what you say is true. Who watches out for the child when HE's with YOU? Or does he bring the child with HIM? Or does he leave the child unsupervised with the "dangerous" mother?
However, it is buying him time with you and he doesn't have to commit in any direction.
BUT, in the meantime now SHE says HE may not be the father BUT the person who may be the father is/was abusive.
And now YOU are concerned about keeping the child in YOUR life ("keep this child in OUR life").
AND the mother is also "sneaking around behind HIS back" and seeing the other guy/potential father (and word is out that the other guy is abusive) - which sounds a lot like YOUR relationship with the father. Somehow it's different when SHE is cheating on HIM than when HE is cheating on HER with YOU.
You have no business in this child's life at this time, nor do you have any claim to the child - tell your boyfriend to grow a spine, decide what he wants, get a DNA test, go to Court, protect the child (if any of what he says about the mother is even remotely true).
Another instance where HE had NO problem having unprotected sex with someone and living with her for four additional years and now he may (or may not) want out of the relationship and she's a troubled person who won't take her medication and "cheats" with abusive men.
And you believe your boyfriend, right? "I love you honey but somebody's got to protect my kid." You really are daydreamin'!
SUMMARY: HE - and this has absolutely nothing to do with you - should go to Court and establish paternity and his rights. Then let's see what direction he chooses to travel.
This is harsh but you don't you have any friends who have ever tried to talk to you about this?
Why don't you re-write it and give me another shot at some advice?Quote:
Originally Posted by daydreamin1224
And I'm sure lots of other people come from different angles and will have different advice - it's just at first reading, WOW!
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