I am married for about 1 and a 1/2 years now and I feel my husband has never understood my feelings for him.My husband and his brother are very close. He has always planned things with him about life. He discusses everything with him and what he says to me or plans with me never happens as he consults and does only whatever checking with his brother. I have never got what I want from my husband either financially or emotionally from the day of my marriage and he says a good wife understands her husband. Should I be financially independent or should I keep his brother away from him?:confused:

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Welcome to AMHD. A lot of men are having separation issues. When you get married you create a new family the husband & wife. You are still a part of your birth family however priority should shift to your marriage. If your husband has to go get approval to live life from his brother, mother, sister, and/or anyone else he is not mature enough to be married. You have brothers-boy. What you need to communicate the facts to him. Maybe some marriage counseling could help. But to be honest with you if you husband is not there financially or emotionally for you why do you want to remain married to him?

First he needs a wake up call that not including you is not right, and that you are now the one he is suppose to be including in everything,
Often I find a few nights on the couch as a real wake up call.

If not counseling will be needed to help establish proper communication.

A few nights on the couch. Some nights out with the girls.
Pushing, forcing or nagging an issue such as keeping him away from his brother will only make him resentful and push him into his brothers "arms'' all the more.