Going through a "trial seperation"
So, for those of you who follow my story. My wife surprised with the fact that she signed a lease with her sister in her hometown an hour and a half away from where we (her, the kids, and I) currently reside. She says she needs this to "find herself". I'll support her.
A few questions:
Has anyone had anything good come from a "trial seperation"? Meaning, has it saved anyone of your marriage or someone you know personally?
What arrangements during a "trial seperation" can hurt me during divorce proceedings if it comes to that?
Any suggestions for how to handle this as far as the level of financial and emotional help I offer her or don't offer her while this runs its course?
When do I stop being Mr. Niceguy and optimistic and defensive and start going on the offensive to best leverage myself in divorce proceedings and what could potentially be an ugly custody battle?
I appreciate any help you may offer.
Some quick details. My father and I own our own business (assetts are all in his name). Our kids are 5 (girl who goes to preschool) and 9 months. Both attend a local daycare. The home is mine (held in my fathers name) and I have a steady work history. She has had 6-8 different jobs in the last 2 years and is moving into a 3 bedroom home with her sister on a month to month lease. There is no worry over division of assets. More worried about alimony calculations and custody (child support).
I still love this woman to death and I still have an optimistic attitude that this will work. I do not want to cause her any harm, but I do not want to hurt myself or my kids by helping her. I hope his ends well. I don't know if I can make it through a divorce.