As the topic states me and my ex broke up 3 months ago because I got jelous of a female friend. I love him to death and I know he didn't cheat. But how do I get him back

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Originally Posted by MzSammi

as the topic states me and my ex broke up 3 months ago because i got jelous of a female friend. i love him to death and i know he didnt cheat. but how do i get him back

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Well for starters how did it end if you finished with him then you need to give him time to chill out and then start texting him back and tell him that you love him and miss him!
If he finished with you then you need to find out why if the reasons are that he doesn't love you any more then you need to leave him alone and find some one else sorry to sound blunt good luck x

There is NO sure way to get an ex back, or 99% of the people on this forum wouldn't be here. Usually a relationship ends for a reason, it means it wasn't meant to be. And hey, if it was it will come back around eventually. If he ended it, why would you want to go running back to him to begin with? If anything he should come running to you asking for another chance. Don't sit around waiting for him, do things for yourself and better yourself.

I was an outrageously jealous person and that was part of the reason my ex ended it. So I went out and bettered myself, sought help through a therapist, online courses(graduate on Thursday), and read countless books and information on the subject. If you feel you are really struggling with the situation of jealousy, may I recommend the book "overcoming jealousy and possessiveness" it helped me in many ways.

You can't change the past or predict the future so live in the present

Simply tell him the truth that's in your heart honesty is the key for a good relationship tell him that you love him to death as you said and just try to convince him why you did so as to let people forgive you and forget what you did you have to give a good reason for what you did!. good luck;)

Have you been in any contact with the ex, during the last 3 months?? Or is this a feeling from out of the blue??

Knowing what you did wrong to mess up your relationship is fine, but that doesn't change anything. If you don't figure out why you act that way (often having nothing to do with your boyfriend), then you're going to do it again. Your ex would be dumb to take you back in that case, so hopefully he's smart enough not to do that.

Until you figure out why you aren't confident enough in who you are to enjoy a mature relationship, stick to casual dating. Get some more practice in. You need to find your own center of well-being and be able to have a relationship from "not-needy" stanndpoint.

What I mean is that you need to be OK with yourself even if the guy you're dating turns out to not be a good one. He may cheat, he may treat you improperly after you've dated long enough for real behaviors to surface... a mature self-image will allow you to walk away from those men with you're head held high, no drama over it.

Immature bonds are needy and tolerate all sort of crappy behavior and lead to jealousy, abuse, manipulation, passive aggressive tendencies... the list goes on.

You need to strong and self-assured to properly judge your dating life. Since you will already have feelings for virtually every guy you date, you need to be mature enough to see past feelings and make intelligent choices about longevity of relationships.

Once your self-assurance is fully active, you'll no longer be held captive to your own or a guy's feelings when actions don't support it. You won't need to stress so much since you're looking for the guy that loves you just the way you are.